So, I have a question.

[Fierlin1182]

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S'okay Ray. When I was your age

I was into novel writing, computers (before they caught on), engineering, and paleontology. Planes and stocks and just plain geeky. That's incredibly cool, in my book.

Aww, thanks Sky!

That means a lot to me. I've always been some sort of outcast, not sure if that's because of my interests (which are certainly part of it) or my total lack of social... hmm, sizzle, as some girls just HAVE.

 

[SkyWarrior]

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Aww, thanks Sky!

That means a lot to me. I've always been some sort of outcast, not sure if that's because of my interests (which are certainly part of it) or my total lack of social... hmm, sizzle, as some girls just HAVE.

Ray, when you get out of college or wherever, you'll be so ahead of your peers, it won't matter. Look, I was a rocket scientist, software engineer, robotics engineer and systems administrator for years before becoming a professional author and publisher. I was picked on horribly as a kid and was never popular in school.

I've raced sled dogs, climbed mountains, have more than 30 books published, won lots of awards for my writing, practice martial arts, to name a few things. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do stuff.

 

[redhen]

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Ray, when you get out of college or wherever, you'll be so ahead of your peers, it won't matter. Look, I was a rocket scientist, software engineer, robotics engineer and systems administrator for years before becoming a professional author and publisher. I was picked on horribly as a kid and was never popular in school.

I've raced sled dogs, climbed mountains, have more than 30 books published, won lots of awards for my writing, practice martial arts, to name a few things. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do stuff.

OOOh cool! **off to google your books! **

 

[Fierlin1182]

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Ray, when you get out of college or wherever, you'll be so ahead of your peers, it won't matter. Look, I was a rocket scientist, software engineer, robotics engineer and systems administrator for years before becoming a professional author and publisher. I was picked on horribly as a kid and was never popular in school.

I've raced sled dogs, climbed mountains, have more than 30 books published, won lots of awards for my writing, practice martial arts, to name a few things. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do stuff.

I like your website! That's pretty cool, that you're an author.

Sounds like you've had a lot of great experiences! It is true that most of the popular kids enjoy the prime of their life while in high school.
I don't exactly want to be world recognised, but I have my ambitions too.

Let's not hijack the thread now.

 

[dainerra]

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Family and friends.

That's what I had been doing. I had a kind, obedient, hug giving self that I used for pretty much everything, and only one or two people knew of 'myself'. But now I'm finding it extremely hard to use my shell, and now everyone's pretty much disliking me for it greatly.

find some new people?

*HUGZ* believe me, there are people like you out there. Go to places that showcase those "weird" things you are interested in; join clubs or online groups about them, that is where to meet people that will accept you for you.

I know that it can be hard when your family isn't accepting, but in the end you have to be true to yourself. They will come around and accept that you are happier being who you truly are. Or they won't, but that will be their issue to deal with.

You can't control how other people will react to you, but you CAN control how you react to them. Continue to love your family, even if you have to keep them at arms length.

Another thing to consider, let them know what they need to know. Being bi-curious? For me, it's none of my families business. That is a personal thing between me and those I am with. If it became serious to the point where I was dating another woman, then yes. Otherwise, what I do with my time is my business. If I know that someone is going to be deeply upset by something, my first question to myself is "Do they need to know?" More often than not, the answer is no.

Sometimes the disapproval of family and friends is just worry and fear in disguise. Do they think that those things you are interested in are dangerous? Are they afraid that there will be bad repercussions for your future if everyone knew about them? Sometimes people, even parents, have trouble expressing their worries and they come off as cold and disapproving. Let yourself blossom and enjoy and they will come around when they see how truly happy you are.

And, if they don't, then it will be up to you to decide if you want to live your life to please others or to please yourself. Be strong....