So, I have a question.

[luvinmychickens]

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[Fierlin1182]

Aww, PK.

I know it must be hard for you, having to live with different religions in your family. But think about how it's going to be when you finally are able to move out! You'll have everything to yourself and be able to live as you like.

Don't change who you are. It's all right to put on a face just to keep going through things, but deep inside in my heart I'll always be who I am, and like what I like...

I've changed who I am several times just so I can stay sane. When I didn't fit in with either the popular crowd or the losers, I decided to go for the group that best suited my personality - the losers, as I'm pretty shy until you get to know me better. So I became someone weird and cut off from the general student population, because I found it easier to get along that way and didn't have to put up with constantly being left out by the people I called my friends. Losers are generally much nicer than the girls in the popular crowd.

BYC is pretty much the same. I feel left out a lot of the time because I'm not mad about chickens like most of you are. I still like to use my experience with the animals to help out newbies though, because if I were a newbie I'd want to see a friendly face around the forum too. Do you all think I'm crazy and somewhat insane because I'm more into planes and stocks than fluffy butts? I can't join those forums either, because although I like to sound smart I'm not actually all that intelligent at all. "Bright" might be a word for it, but I certainly don't know anything about half the things I claim to.

My parents predict bad things for my future, but I suppose I just have to accept it, get out there and have a blast screwing things up!

 

[Matthew3590]

There is a reason we were given the ability to be two face. I will say and do things around my friends but if I am near my parents I will act accordingly to their standards.

 

[sourland]

Ec, when it comes to parents it's "Their house, their rules." With them it's a matter of respect not hypocrisy on your part. After that it is possible to be yourself without being 'belligerent', rude or unthoughtful towards others.

For you it's a matter of finding that place where you belong, and that does not necessarily mean group of people. Sourland was/is/always has been somewhat of an alien to the human race.

I belong in the outdoors. Nature, animals, plants, mountains, running water - these are the things that work for me. I met the Princess - an absolute act of providence - and rejoined the human race because of her. Do your own thing, cultivate your own interests and do these thing while being respectful to the feelings of others and you will find your way and that place where you belong.

Sourland has faith in you. You will be OK.

 

[Glenmar]

Surround yourself with friends that understand you and accept you for who you are.
You may not have found them yet, because you are young, but they are out there.
Stay true to yourself.

 

[Q9]

I didn't realize this was an issue with parents as well - I'm afraid you'll have to ignore my advice in that situation. I wish I had something to contribute, but I've never really had any significant disagreements with my parents (though I do take somewhat more extreme positions on some issues).

 

[SkyWarrior]

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Family and friends.

That's what I had been doing. I had a kind, obedient, hug giving self that I used for pretty much everything, and only one or two people knew of 'myself'. But now I'm finding it extremely hard to use my shell, and now everyone's pretty much disliking me for it greatly.

True friends will stick with you. Your family may not "get" who you are all the time, but most parents love their children and want what's best for them. Of course, you have to work with their rules, but you won't be living with your parents forever.

At some point, trying to please everyone except one's self makes one very unhappy. Growing up is tough, but you'll get through it. And quite honestly, if you're still in school, it won't be long before you're at a different school or in college or looking for a job. And you'll make new friends there--perhaps without the guise.

Hang in there.

 

[SkyWarrior]

ray's two cents :

Aww, PK.

I know it must be hard for you, having to live with different religions in your family. But think about how it's going to be when you finally are able to move out! You'll have everything to yourself and be able to live as you like.

Don't change who you are. It's all right to put on a face just to keep going through things, but deep inside in my heart I'll always be who I am, and like what I like...

I've changed who I am several times just so I can stay sane. When I didn't fit in with either the popular crowd or the losers, I decided to go for the group that best suited my personality - the losers, as I'm pretty shy until you get to know me better. So I became someone weird and cut off from the general student population, because I found it easier to get along that way and didn't have to put up with constantly being left out by the people I called my friends. Losers are generally much nicer than the girls in the popular crowd.

BYC is pretty much the same. I feel left out a lot of the time because I'm not mad about chickens like most of you are. I still like to use my experience with the animals to help out newbies though, because if I were a newbie I'd want to see a friendly face around the forum too. Do you all think I'm crazy and somewhat insane because I'm more into planes and stocks than fluffy butts? I can't join those forums either, because although I like to sound smart I'm not actually all that intelligent at all. "Bright" might be a word for it, but I certainly don't know anything about half the things I claim to.

My parents predict bad things for my future, but I suppose I just have to accept it, get out there and have a blast screwing things up!

S'okay Ray. When I was your age

I was into novel writing, computers (before they caught on), engineering, and paleontology. Planes and stocks and just plain geeky. That's incredibly cool, in my book.

 

[redhen]

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Listen to this wise man, PK...

 

[Mattemma]

Hopefully with time your family and friends can be more accepting of you. I have family and friends that that are living such different lives.Interests,religion,politics.....all over the map. At first it might have been more of each of us discussing and trying to *convert* the others to our own way. After some time though we learned to accept our differences.Agree to disagree on many issues. Ofcourse there are those that just can not get past some things,and that is when you realise avoidance is best for both.

It can be hard while still at home,but be patient. You will find a way to meet your needs and that of others you care about.

I was just talking to my kids the other day about the *face* we put on depending on the situation.Some do it to get what they want.Some to cover up the mean person they really are. I have done it to avoid causing someone discomfort or disappointment.Act a certain way and then I am happy to get home and take that mask off!