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having two older siblings (4 years between me and my sis and 8 years between me and my bro) go through this process i dread the day when i start going through the process they did. My mom is a lot strcitor then my dad, although my mom grew up in a navy house hold (GF was in the Navy) where my dad grew up on a farm, where they could do just about anything. Both my grandmothers are sooo different. My relation ship is better with my dad then it is my mom.

We went down to vist my grandparents (moms parents) to day my sister has had her fulls for about 3-4 (or more) months now. Mom is still a "backseat /shot gun" driver, even though my sister is a very good driver. So i see what you are going through right now. Could you see if you could pay "rent" and maybe that would kind of say to your mom " I am an adult give me a bit more leadway" idea.
 
If you want freedom, move out. If you are making 30k a year there is no reason you can't live on your own. Show your Mom you are an adult and she might treat you like one.
 
Nothing wrong with being a hick.
I can be as hick as they come.

But there is nothing wrong with being upper class either.
I wear a suit well.

Try experiencing both.

Your age, you're probably going to need to be able to go in
and out of both worlds.
 
You are at a reeeal tough age... just hitting adulthood, and still living at home. (which is TOTALLY normal!)..
Its probably hard on your mom too!!....
I know i'm no help, but give her a hug and tell her thank you for caring so much. Many kids dont have that. She might appreciate that from you...
As with everything in life...trust me, it WILL all work out in the end.... just hold on.
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Totally agree with this, if he was living at home or not. I do have to say, making that kind of money, I would be charging you rent. I am curious as to your history with your mother. PM me if you feel like discussing this. She sounds alot like my mother and I am almost 50 years old.

When my son turned 18 three years ago, he won his freedom. The only thing I ever asked was that he let me know where he is. He lives under my roof, I wanna know where he is. 18 you are an adult and you should be able to go about as you please as long as you are not living a destructive life style. Mutual respect is something my son and I share. Not my mother and I.
 
I assume you're putting your money into school and your business? If so, it might be best in the long run to grit your teeth and endure until you've met your goals. It sounds to me like you're on a good path, and will be happy and successful. Then you can deal with your family on equal terms.
 
I have a teen girl that is almost 19. She works full time, though not for much money. And she hangs with her boyfriend. That is about it. She goes back to college locally in the fall.

I don't understand some of what your mom says to you. I love my daughter. I do keep telling her things she should do but she is irresponsible sometimes with her money (which she is trying to save for a car) and with her time (never allows herself to get any rest. Spends all extra moments with her bo.) I worry about her, but most of my instruction comes from worry and love. Not looking down on her. It sounds like you're a responsible 18 year old with the amount of work you're accomplishing and attending school in the fall.

I agree with others. Sounds like you make enough to rent a little place. maybe somewhere near the college? Sometimes you just need to snip the apron strings and become your own man. that doesn't mean forgetting mom and dad, but visit for Sunday dinners and such, like an adult. then maybe she will start to see you as one. If not, no worries. Just believe in yourself and your accomplishments even if she can't. Above all, be yourself.

Also, I tell my child that being an 'adult' is not a number (18). It's a responsibility level. If you're saving your money and only spending some wisely and being responsible with your jobs and girlfriend and stuff, it sounds like you're being an adult.
 
Make a contract, pay rent and be the adult you need to be. If you are a tenant, she cannot "control" you. You may have to actually move out though.
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Our grown son had to follow our rules, he ended up leaving to "greener pastures" and got into some big trouble.

You know you--if your mum is being truly unreasonable, you should probably get your own place.
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Congrats on your already awesome start on life!!!
 

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