So many happily married signature lines :)

[saddina]

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You crack me up!!!!

It's the level of honesty. I litterly danced as the papers were signed, then went out dancing...

 

[redhen]

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Ditto! You have to like AND really know yourself first.
I Know that i'm not the same person i was at 21 years old..I'd never settle for some of the crap i did back then with my EX...(thats why he is an ex today..

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Again..if you truly know who you are...noone can ever make you un-happy...EVER! AND people will only treat you how you ALLOW them to!!!!... I cant say this enough!!!!
I AM very happy in my marriage...Is he perfect? nooope...
Am i perfect? *snort* you all know the answer to that...

But more importantly...are we happy? Yup!
Trust me...i've been through enough men to know the difference...

It took me until i was 30...but i found the right guy for me.

 

[saddina]

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Are you calling me a lady or am I just being completely ignored on this thread???

huh what?

Kiddin PC, same boat here

They forget that some of us here have........ er..... different agendas.... no thats not it..... appenda...... thats not right... you know what I mean.

"hardware"

 

[Southernbelle]

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Oh lord I'm on my third, I'm either an optimist or else being asked to get married in a tacobell drive thru really did work....

Would I do it again? No, I've got bad taste in men, this one just wouldn't get dumped.

It just sounds like this is the one you were meant to be with.

And it did take a lot for you to trust Mr. Saddi.

 

[ruth]

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Actually......the bible says:

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

Now if all men truly loved their wives in this way, all wives would truly respect their husbands, and there would be no divorce.

I can't imagine a marriage more beautiful than the one the bible lays out for us.

 

[hikerchick]

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Ditto! You have to like AND really know yourself first.
I Know that i'm not the same person i was at 21 years old..I'd never settle for some of the crap i did back then with my EX...(thats why he is an ex today..

.)
Again..if you truly know who you are...noone can ever make you un-happy...EVER! AND people will only treat you how you ALLOW them to!!!!... I cant say this enough!!!!
I AM very happy in my marriage...Is he perfect? nooope...
Am i perfect? *snort* you all know the answer to that...

But more importantly...are we happy? Yup!
Trust me...i've been through enough men to know the difference...

It took me until i was 30...but i found the right guy for me.

I think even if you have good self esteem, living with someone who lies, cheats, abuses you, treats your children badly, etc., can MAKE you unhappy. How could it not? Sometimes the only way to not allow them to do these things is to stop being married to them.

 

[hikerchick]

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huh what?

Kiddin PC, same boat here

They forget that some of us here have........ er..... different agendas.... no thats not it..... appenda...... thats not right... you know what I mean.

"hardware"

or software, as the case may be.

 

[Boyd]

staying away from that one

 

[hikerchick]

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Actually......the bible says:

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."That is great for people who believe in the Bible, but not everyone does.

Now if all men truly loved their wives in this way, all wives would truly respect their husbands, and there would be no divorce.

I can't imagine a marriage more beautiful than the one the bible lays out for us.

That is great for people who believe in that but not all of us do.

 

[saddina]

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Oh lord I'm on my third, I'm either an optimist or else being asked to get married in a tacobell drive thru really did work....

Would I do it again? No, I've got bad taste in men, this one just wouldn't get dumped.

It just sounds like this is the one you were meant to be with.

And it did take a lot for you to trust Mr. Saddi.

Hmm, yes and no.

We'd been good friends for several years, while I was married to someone else. So there was no need to try to impress him or to pretend to be sane and normal, so I was able to simply be my crazy self. But well, I'd just ended a relationship with years of infidelity, and I told him "I don;t care what happens or how innocent your intentions are, if it even looks wrong, you're gone". I had a cousin who was a bit of a man poacher, sure enough a month later she's chasing him down, he was dumb enough to be alone with her for an hour or two. We split up over that for a while, fair or not I was clear that at that point either I called the rules or else there was no relationship. A few weeks later he asked me to have dinner so he could apologize, and we've been together since. I do believe nothing happened, but if you don't care about my feelings, you can not stay.