So many happily married signature lines :)

[redhen]

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Ditto! You have to like AND really know yourself first.
I Know that i'm not the same person i was at 21 years old..I'd never settle for some of the crap i did back then with my EX...(thats why he is an ex today..

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Again..if you truly know who you are...noone can ever make you un-happy...EVER! AND people will only treat you how you ALLOW them to!!!!... I cant say this enough!!!!
I AM very happy in my marriage...Is he perfect? nooope...
Am i perfect? *snort* you all know the answer to that...

But more importantly...are we happy? Yup!
Trust me...i've been through enough men to know the difference...

It took me until i was 30...but i found the right guy for me.

I think even if you have good self esteem, living with someone who lies, cheats, abuses you, treats your children badly, etc., can MAKE you unhappy. How could it not? Sometimes the only way to not allow them to do these things is to stop being married to them.

YES! I totally agree with that Hiker! OR SSS and collect the insurance..

BUt honestly, i agree...i could never settle for that....i know some people do..and its their business ..and i respect their decision also. I feel bad and very angry inside for them..
but in the end..its their business.

 

[hikerchick]

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I think even if you have good self esteem, living with someone who lies, cheats, abuses you, treats your children badly, etc., can MAKE you unhappy. How could it not? Sometimes the only way to not allow them to do these things is to stop being married to them.

YES! I totally agree with that Hiker! OR SSS and collect the insurance..

BUt honestly, i agree...i could never settle for that....i know some people do..and its their business ..and i respect that also. I feel bad and very angry inside for them..
but in the end..its their business.

I wish I had known about SSS before my last divorce.

 

[Crusty McPottydoodle]

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Me too. I wonder if it is too late...

 

[Boyd]

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Me too. I wonder if it is too late...

i want to jump on this bandwagon.

 

[saddina]

*the widow declines to comment at this time*

 

[redhen]

OOh dear..

*redhens disclaimer* I dont recommend the SSS method for dealing with EX spouses.. I was only kidding..

1: Its illegal..
2: you could ruin a good pair of shoes in the process..

 

[ozark hen]

My dh and I met when we were both divorced and let me tell you...I wish I had met him first. this man is awesome. He is so in-tuned to female moods and oh, so patient. He is nine years younger than I am but I think, God didn't think he needed as much training when He sent him to me.

 

[Boyd]

training?

 

[Holly O]

What on earth would make someone attracted to a Lying., Cheating, Abusive person.

Maybe Low self esteem?


FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

 

[ZepChick]

Holly O ~ I think low self-esteem for sure could be a contributing factor. I also think people learn a lot from the way they grew up, and who they had as role models. You know, like, how did the father treat mother and vice versa? I have a baby now and I told my husband I am going to teach him to respect women. When he is old enough I hope to teach him to open doors for women/girls and such. I hope my husband can pick up on that also, because if my little Gabriel learns by Dad's example (like I was saying earlier) then he won't be opening any doors...argh! I am feeling kind of sad now