So many happily married signature lines :)

[Buff Hooligans]

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Me too.

 

[sandyj]

First of all, for me, being married for 27 years has been one of the hardest things I've done in my life. It's a lot of work to keep the spouse happy and visa/versa. But, its also been the most rewarding. We can laugh together and cry together. And like others have said, he helps with all the animals and right now is building my winter coop. Love ya honey!!!

sandyj

 

[Holly O]

For some it's easy to be a Victim.

listen, I've been their done that.
But I took a long hard look at myself and tried to figure out what it was that attracted them to me. What kind of Blinders was I wearing. Because in hindsight the signs where their.

Their are cases that you truly are a victim, I know the difference. As I have been VICTIMIZED! But when choosing a mate, I feel you need to get real with yourself, and be totally honest.

Self pity doesn't become anyone.
Learn and Grow!

 

[Msbear]

 

[lnm03]

What is it about your spouse that makes you want to yell from the rooftops about how great they are?

My DH and I have been together for 12 years married for 6 and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me! He is sweet, compassionate and my best friend.

What do you do in your marriage to keep it so great?

I can honestly tell you it hasnt always been perfect and it still isnt perfect and it probably never will be perfect because we are human and NONE of us are perfect. But, we are there for each other wether it is a bad day, good day or OK day we talk, listen and make time for each other. I think making time for each other is important because with our busy schedules it is easy to take things for granted. We have three small children and we know that it is important to have quality time. No it is not every day and no it is not every week but, atleast 1x per month we have 1 evening to ourselves no kids. but we do take time inbetween when the kids are sleeping to sit outside on the porch and talk about anything, things we have already talked about, things we forgot to talk about.....sometimes we include our kids in our together time by going on picnics in our back yard or at the park.

What is your best piece of marital advice?

Communication, trust, honesty are very important in a relationship

ETA: Respect is also very important, Respect for yourself, respect for your spouse, and respect in your relationship.

 

[hikerchick]

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I don't think leaving an abusive relationship means that you have low self esteem, that you pity yourself, or that you are being a victim. What do you advise to people who discover that their partner is not who they thought he was? Just "be happy"?

It's not that simple. You shouldn't be so quick to judge people.

 

[hikerchick]

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It's not people being happy that is nauseating - it's people trying to hard to convince everyone else that their lives are perfect that gets a little saccharine. If your life is so wonderful, why do you have the need to convince everyone else how great it is? Just go and enjoy it.

 

[DuckLady]

Apologies to the OP for her positive thread being turned into a squabble.