Luna-
Dr is doing an open surgery, but robot assisted (Boys and their toys!). I think that's because it is so hard to resect the ureters from the ligaments that hold the uterus in place. He has to take the ligaments and lymph nodes to send to pathology. Recovery time is minimum 12 weeks.
No disability in WA state. I've used all my sick time due to my chronic illness. I was having quite a bit of stress at work this past year and so I kept having flare after flare. Now I have this great (brand new) job, and they are all so caring and supportive. At my old position (same company, different manager) I would have been told I didn't have a job to come back to. At this position they keep telling me to take all the time I need and don't worry, my job will be there.
My husband works for the same company and also has a great manager. There's just that one bad apple that I had to get away from. DH's boss is going to ask for paid leave donations, but to MY account because I make 3times more than him. We'll make do, might be Top Ramen for awhile, but I'm pretty savvy with the coupons.
Thanks again for all the good wishes!
PS- Surgery date! They scheduled me today for April 25th. Have to go to a hospital 2 hours away from the house, but my BFF is going to fly up from So Cal and be my own personal nurse while I'm in the hospital so DH can stay home and be with our daughter. She's 15, and can handle herself quite well alone, but this is different, I want her to feel like life is as normal as possible while I'm gone so she doesn't worry.