So....talk about.....CANCER SUPPORT THREAD !!

[sumi]

Phil, thank you

I wish I could talk about things last year, when I dealt with the first one. It's a great comfort having people who'd been there and understands what goes on in your head, what it feels like to deal with something like that. Things got so bad that I couldn't talk about it then, I still find it difficult to. Right now, I'm trying not to think about the results. It's going to sneak up on me when the time comes, I know, I'll be watching the mail box for that letter from the hospital. But for now I'm trying to carry on like normal, reassure my son, he's worried and being absolutely amazing about everything…

 

[Outpost JWB]

6 WEEKS?!?!. That's a very long wait! You could hatch out 2 batches of chicks by then

Very glad the staff was supportive . I know what you mean about the allergies to bandages. I had to leave mine exposed most of the time. I did cover with gauze and tape. Always carried petroleum jelly everywhere I went to keep it moist. Worst part was when stuff would seep thru the gauze, or the time I was at a friend's funeral and her sister hugged me and I felt my face to discover the gauze was flapping in the breeze.

How old is your son? It's amazing how kids cope. Last year DD (10 years old), told her older sister, "Can you make a donation to end Cancer instead of buying me Christmas presents?" And she is so proud of the letter she got in her name of donation to St. Jude.

God puts the right people in our lives at just the right time. We will be here for you Sumi.

 

[N F C]

6 WEEKS?!?!. That's a very long wait! You could hatch out 2 batches of chicks by then

Very glad the staff was supportive

. I know what you mean about the allergies to bandages. I had to leave mine exposed most of the time. I did cover with gauze and tape. Always carried petroleum jelly everywhere I went to keep it moist. Worst part was when stuff would seep thru the gauze, or the time I was at a friend's funeral and her sister hugged me and I felt my face to discover the gauze was flapping in the breeze.

How old is your son? It's amazing how kids cope. Last year DD (10 years old), told her older sister, "Can you make a donation to end Cancer instead of buying me Christmas presents?" And she is so proud of the letter she got in her name of donation to St. Jude.

God puts the right people in our lives at just the right time. We will be here for you Sumi.

Outpost, that's a wonderful story about your DD asking for the donation. What a great kid.

And x2 on this: God puts the right people in our lives at just the right time. We will be here for you Sumi

 

[sumi]

Quote: Thank you both

Debby knows how hard it is for me to ask for help, or to talk, but know I appreciate it.

DS is 10 years old. In that wonderful still a child, but trying to be a man stage

He's wonderful, really, he is the best kid a mom can ask for… The day before I went for surgery, knowing I won't be able to do much afterwards, I cleaned the house as best I could. I was washing dishes and turned around to find him washing the floor, water going everywhere, so proud of himself, telling me "I'm helping you!"

Those bandages… oh my word… The nurse at the hospital beforehand told me I'm a perfect patent, no allergies, or issues and then bang! 3 days later, excruciating pain. I went to the clinic, the nurse removed the dressing, ran off and called the doctor. She told me afterwards my shoulder was purple, I reacted so bad. And stitches, don't get me started on stitches. Dissolve stitches that don't dissolve, non-dissolve stitches that won't come out, internal stitches (I didn't know I had at the time) deciding to put in an appearance and nearly giving me a heart attack. This current batch had better behave, or I'm going to ask them to staple me together next time!

 

[N F C]

Thank you both

Debby knows how hard it is for me to ask for help, or to talk, but know I appreciate it.

DS is 10 years old. In that wonderful still a child, but trying to be a man stage

He's wonderful, really, he is the best kid a mom can ask for… The day before I went for surgery, knowing I won't be able to do much afterwards, I cleaned the house as best I could. I was washing dishes and turned around to find him washing the floor, water going everywhere, so proud of himself, telling me "I'm helping you!"

Those bandages… oh my word… The nurse at the hospital beforehand told me I'm a perfect patent, no allergies, or issues and then bang! 3 days later, excruciating pain. I went to the clinic, the nurse removed the dressing, ran off and called the doctor. She told me afterwards my shoulder was purple, I reacted so bad. And stitches, don't get me started on stitches. Dissolve stitches that don't dissolve, non-dissolve stitches that won't come out, internal stitches (I didn't know I had at the time) deciding to put in an appearance and nearly giving me a heart attack. This current batch had better behave, or I'm going to ask them to staple me together next time!

Sumi

The time for talking just had to feel right to you.

Bless DS's heart, what an awesome little man!

 

[LittleLakePhil]

Phil, thank you   I wish I could talk about things last year, when I dealt with the first one. It's a great comfort having people who'd been there and understands what goes on in your head, what it feels like to deal with something like that. Things got so bad that I couldn't talk about it then, I still find it difficult to. Right now, I'm trying not to think about the results. It's going to sneak up on me when the time comes, I know, I'll be watching the mail box for that letter from the hospital. But for now I'm trying to carry on like normal, reassure my son, he's worried and being absolutely amazing about everything… 

I always hated the wait. After every test.... You wait.

And there isn't anything you can do but wait.

You always want to speed up time.... And that seems to make it worse.

Sumi you aren't alone.... Been there.
Just try and put it in the back of your mind somewhere and move along. We will be here with you waiting for the results.

My kids were everywhere from 2 to 13 when I went through my bond marrow transplant. It was hard to leave my boys up here by themselves while me, my wife and daughter went 500 miles away. But I'm glad I did fix I got to watch them grow up into awesome adults.

 

[Outpost JWB]

 

6 WEEKS?!?!. That's a very long wait! You could hatch out 2 batches of chicks by then


Very glad the staff was supportive . I know what you mean about the allergies to bandages. I had to leave mine exposed most of the time. I did cover with gauze and tape. Always carried petroleum jelly everywhere I went to keep it moist. Worst part was when stuff would seep thru the gauze, or the time I was at a friend's funeral and her sister hugged me and I felt my face to discover the gauze was flapping in the breeze.


How old is your son? It's amazing how kids cope. Last year DD (10 years old), told her older sister, "Can you make a donation to end Cancer instead of buying me Christmas presents?" And she is so proud of the letter she got in her name of donation to St. Jude.


God puts the right people in our lives at just the right time. We will be here for you Sumi.

Outpost, that's a wonderful story about your DD asking for the donation. What a great kid.

And x2 on this: God puts the right people in our lives at just the right time. We will be here for you Sumi

Thank you both   Debby knows how hard it is for me to ask for help, or to talk, but know I appreciate it. 

DS is 10 years old. In that wonderful still a child, but trying to be a man stage   He's wonderful, really, he is the best kid a mom can ask for… The day before I went for surgery, knowing I won't be able to do much afterwards, I cleaned the house as best I could. I was washing dishes and turned around to find him washing the floor, water going everywhere, so proud of himself, telling me "I'm helping you!" 

Those bandages… oh my word… The nurse at the hospital beforehand told me I'm a perfect patent, no allergies, or issues and then bang! 3 days later, excruciating pain. I went to the clinic, the nurse removed the dressing, ran off and called the doctor. She told me afterwards my shoulder was purple, I reacted so bad. And stitches, don't get me started on stitches. Dissolve stitches that don't dissolve, non-dissolve stitches that won't come out, internal stitches (I didn't know I had at the time) deciding to put in an appearance and nearly giving me a heart attack. This current batch had better behave, or I'm going to ask them to staple me together next time! 

Yes. I understand. Under my eye swelled so bad the eye swelled shut. Then the doctors at the Cancer center stuck needles in it to try to relieve pressure....without any numbing. I thought I was going to go mad. It hurt terribly already! Things that I found helped AFTER the stitches, and the wound was healed, I used these bandage type patches called Scar Away. They stick directly to the wound and have silicone gel on the bandage that meshes with the skin. I tried other creams and such, most burned.

So glad you have your little boy. He sounds like a sweetie

 

[sumi]

Yes. I understand. Under my eye swelled so bad the eye swelled shut. Then the doctors at the Cancer center stuck needles in it to try to relieve pressure....without any numbing. I thought I was going to go mad. It hurt terribly already! Things that I found helped AFTER the stitches, and the wound was healed, I used these bandage type patches called Scar Away. They stick directly to the wound and have silicone gel on the bandage that meshes with the skin. I tried other creams and such, most burned.

So glad you have your little boy. He sounds like a sweetie

Omg, that is horrible!

And the eye area is so sensitive… Wouldn't it be nice if they think sometimes. Thank goodness for the considerate doctors! The first doctor I went to, I begged her to remove the stitches, this was more than 2 weeks after the surgery. She refused and said they will "drop off". Well, they didn't. The second lot got so stuck, by the time I had them out, I didn't bother behaving. That hurt and I told the poor doctor all about it! lol

This time round has gone amazingly well so far. The pain was much less severe than with my previous surgeries and though I haven't been able to do much, due to the location of the incisions, I've been comfortable most of the time. The nurse at the clinic figured out which dressing she can stick on me without causing a reaction, thank goodness! Now, it's just the wait…

 

[Outpost JWB]

Ugh! The wait... Maybe we could do a fun countdown.

 

[sumi]

Ugh! The wait... Maybe we could do a fun countdown.

Can I bring wine to the 3….2….1?

I took a bad fall yesterday afternoon. It was stupid, really, I stepped off a chair and onto one of DS's footballs, that shouldn't have been in the kitchen in the first place. I don't know how I managed not to see the darn thing there? Shows how absent-minded I am at the moment... Thank goodness I seems I did not to do any damage to the incisions, which are healing up very nicely, but they were hurting afterwards.