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Hey! Yes, I'm the one with the tattoo of the ribbons.
Lung cancer is a pearly grey/silver ribbon. I lost my Brother to Lung cancer.--third one in.
By the time my brothers cancer was discovered it was already too late. My brother abused his body from a very young age. He smoke since I don't know when and was also an alcoholic by the time he was 18. He was also a volunteer Fireman and worked in the shipyard around asbestos. We don't know what of all the stuff brought on his cancer. He was 43, 5 years younger than I am now.
Now is the time to spend with your Dad if you feel that his cancer is beyond the point of help. Just being there to listen. I didn't get to spend anytime with my brother. Life was getting in the way. I made my Mom's best friend promise to call me when things got bad and that I would come home then. They went from bad to worse and then he was gone before she could call me. I miss not having been there to say goodbye. Don't make the mistake I did.
When my best friend became ill, I found the time to send with him. I managed to have saved up weeks and weeks of leave time and I used it. Sometimes I just sat there and said nothing for hours. Helped him smoke a cig when he wanted one. Made him one of his favorite foods, Crab Cakes, even iff we had to feed it to him with a spoon. When he began waisting away, I sat beside him and had a very hard talk about his needing to let go. He was holding on because he didn't want to ruin Christmas for his young son. Within 2 days of his making peace with what was happening and with those he loved around him, I sat there and watched him go. 6ft 8in, big ol' cheesy moustache, and beautiful brown eyes. When I think of him, the song from CaddyShack will pop up on the radio. "I'm all Right" with the dancing Gopher, lol. Tom had Lou Gerig's his is the ribbon with blue pin stripes.
The rest of the ribbons are for these people who have passed.
1. PurplyBlue--Alzheimers--my maternal Grandmother
2. Brown---Colon Cancer--my Aunt Maggie
3. Silver--Lung Cancer--my Brother, Steve
4. Pink--Breast Cancer--my Friend, Judy B
5. Pin-stripped--ALS--my best friend Tom
6.Teal---Ovarian Cancer---my Aunt Barbara
7. PurplyMagenta--Pancreatic Cancer--my Friend Barbie
8. Periwinkle---Stomach Cancer--my paternal Grandmother