so what do you think this dream means? AVAILABLE FOR HIJACKING :)

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I won't address the marriage thing, because my personal beliefs are that you aren't entitled to anything from another person regardless of if you are married or not. I'd walk away from everything and start over.
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I would love to see your "Research" about children doing badly without both parents. This aspect of it I will call you on. How does your "Research" respond to people such as Barack Obama or Micheal Phelps? Obama, a U.S. senator from Illinois, now our US president? Phelps won eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. Lets not forget Tour de France-winning cyclist Lance Armstrong, Massachusetts Gov. Deval Patrick, and actor Benjamin Bratt -- all grew up in single-parent households.

I raise my daughter alone. Is there a risk she will turn out to be an ax-wielding psychopath? Of course. But it's not a risk inherent in the single-parent family. You can't assume that every child raised by a single parent is going to have difficulties. The majority don't. It's one of my pet peeves that people assume non traditional families can't raise children as well as a kid who has a mom and a dad. What's important is not whether they are raised by one or two parents. It's how good is the relationship with the parent, how much support they're getting from that parent and how harmonious the environment is. It doesn't matter if you have only one parent, two parents, two parents of the same sex, are raised by your grand parents or other family members. All that matters is the child is loved, supported, and nurtured.


By the way, John Wayne Gacy grew up with both parents. Just sayin.
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I won't address the marriage thing, because my personal beliefs are that you aren't entitled to anything from another person regardless of if you are married or not. I'd walk away from everything and start over.
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I would love to see your "Research" about children doing badly without both parents. This aspect of it I will call you on. How does your "Research" respond to people such as Barack Obama or Micheal Phelps? Obama, a U.S. senator from Illinois, now our US president? Phelps won eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. Lets not forget Tour de France-winning cyclist Lance Armstrong, Massachusetts Gov. Deval Patrick, and actor Benjamin Bratt -- all grew up in single-parent households.

I raise my daughter alone. Is there a risk she will turn out to be an ax-wielding psychopath? Of course. But it's not a risk inherent in the single-parent family. You can't assume that every child raised by a single parent is going to have difficulties. The majority don't. It's one of my pet peeves that people assume non traditional families can't raise children as well as a kid who has a mom and a dad. What's important is not whether they are raised by one or two parents. It's how good is the relationship with the parent, how much support they're getting from that parent and how harmonious the environment is. It doesn't matter if you have only one parent, two parents, two parents of the same sex, are raised by your grand parents or other family members. All that matters is the child is loved, supported, and nurtured.

X2 Even though I don't care for Obama myself...
 
Rancher while you do have some good points, everything you bring up has to do with the finaincial aspects of a marriage - nothing to do with being a good parent. I am not a single parent, never have been. In fact I've been married for 22 years - some good, some bad. I did however find your post to be a bit snarky with all your (sarcasm) You are entitled to your opinion, but so is everyone else and research can be skewed to fit any view.

Now back to these interesting dreams
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Thank you Sour. I'm honing my hijack skills well...just a little more practice and I can move on to ships...then countries...then...the world!
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I won't address the marriage thing, because my personal beliefs are that you aren't entitled to anything from another person regardless of if you are married or not. I'd walk away from everything and start over.
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I would love to see your "Research" about children doing badly without both parents. This aspect of it I will call you on. How does your "Research" respond to people such as Barack Obama or Micheal Phelps? Obama, a U.S. senator from Illinois, now our US president? Phelps won eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. Lets not forget Tour de France-winning cyclist Lance Armstrong, Massachusetts Gov. Deval Patrick, and actor Benjamin Bratt -- all grew up in single-parent households.
. The majority don't. It's one of my pet peeves that people assume non traditional families can't raise children as well as a kid who has a mom and a dad. What's important is not whether they are raised by one

I raise my daughter alone. Is there a risk she will turn out to be an ax-wielding psychopath? Of course. But it's not a risk inherent in the single-parent family. You can't assume that every child raised by a single parent is going to have difficulties or two parents. It's how good is the relationship with the parent, how much support they're getting from that parent and how harmonious the environment is. It doesn't matter if you have only one parent, two parents, two parents of the same sex, are raised by your grand parents or other family members. All that matters is the child is loved, supported, and nurtured.


By the way, John Wayne Gacy grew up with both parents. Just sayin.
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Sorry to upset anyone. However I am entitled to my OP am I not. My OP about my original post of marriage, am I not?

In answer to your question, Is there a risk she will turn out to be an ax-wielding psychopath? Yes just like all kids. However it's a big leap to Ax wielding psychopath. I said "fair better" that covers a lot of ground. The "odds" are better for children of two parent homes. This is not to say anything is written in stone. I didn't say that and you are making a leap to say I "assumed", I didn't assume anything.

As for the people you mentioned. I don't know Gov. Deval Patrick but of the others? According to Wikipedia. M. Phelps did have a father and mother as did B. Bratt. Those you mention are exceptions. You of course are entitled to your opinions. As am I without anyone coming against them. After all you brought it up didn't you.

As for not being entitled to anything from anyone. I don't really think you believe that. You may right now but you just let your boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse leave you for someone else and then we'll see.

When my cousin Joe died at age 30 of a heart attack. His live in girl friend sat in the back of the funeral home while his mother sat in the place of honor. You might feel differently if your in a relationship and the other person ends up in the hospital and you can't see them nor have any say about their care because you aren't married. Or they die and you have no say.

pbjmaker - Being financially secure can help make you a better parent. Financial security can ease the stress that besets us all. But I have said nothing is guaranteed. I do confess to being snarky, because I don't agree with living together or having children out of wedlock. I don't ask anyone to agree just grant me the same respect you think your entitled to.

Do you or Em think I'm some young kid? I am not and I've lived and experienced and seen many things. I come from a large family of 10. Have many cousins and the whole nine yards. However Em questioned my post, not the other way around. I just tried to explain SOME of the benefits of being married, hoping to convince anyone to see what they may not have considered. There are others benefits not mentioned. You don't have to agree with me.

This conversation is over as far as I'm concerned. After all the OP to whom I responded didn't seem upset by my response so I'll leave this alone.
 
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