Some people are rude!

[kuntrygirl]

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I read all of these posts and I can't find a posts where anyone called the OP rude. Can anyone point me to that post?

I "MIGHT" get them today or tomorrow. So I nicely emailed him this to let him know I wasn't going to be able to make it either day......

Today or tomorrow is concrete, which means 1 day or the other day. Then.........can't make it either day is also concrete, which means I won't be there. What more do you need???

 

[Baybrio]

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I agree, although I guess I would hold something for a few hours if someone called and said they were on their way.

HOWEVER:Beware when you are selling something on Craigslist. I sold some young started chickens to some folks that lived maybe a half hour away. They seemed very nice, we chatted poultry, they commented on my ducklings, so I told them they were rare Dutch Hookbills that I purchased from a conservation farm and how excited I was to have them. Not two days latter some one stole them all!

All 11, gone from their predator proof enclosure. No signs of a predator and door was latched in an odd way. Now I don't know that those folks had anything to do with my ducklings being stolen but I can't think of anyone who knew I had them that would want a duck of any kind.

Since then I've been afraid to sell things - Oh, I did sell a little red wagon to a women who posted an ad looking for a wagon so her very old Basset Hound could be pulled around the neighborhood when she walked her other dog.

 

[aubreynoramarie]

I'm sorry let me clarify. If someone called me a wishy washy flake and told the "poultry community" about me because I couldn't make it on two days that I said I MIGHT, then that would be my interpretation of someone thinking I was rude.

Also no I don't see one day or the the other being concrete with the word might infrint of them. If someone tells me they MIGHT be able to make it to my house, that tells me they have other things going on that day and want to try to get here. If they later tell me they can't make it, that says to me that they wanted to, but it's not possible.

 

[farmerlor]

I think the guy was rude. I'm guessing he could have worded his email a little better but as someone who sells birds on Craigslist quite often I get a LOT of emails about my birds so if someone says they want them and are coming "either today or tomorrow" I"m going to count those birds gone and start telling people they are sold. This is a favor I'm doing to the buyer to hold them that long as I could easily sell them today by 5 so when I get the next email saying that the buyer is not coming I AM a little disgruntled that I've missed all those other emails from people eager to come buy my birds who would have been there by today before 5. (shrug) And no, that buyer will not get another chance to make another appointment to see the birds. I'm sorry, don't want to make you feel worse but that's just how I do it though I wouldn't have been quite so mean in my email to you.

 

[jasonm11]

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You are entitled to your 22yrd old opinions. I am entitled to my 39yrd old opinions. I regularly do business on a handshake or phone call and rarely have any issues. If you are going to contact someone about an interest make sure to clarify you're intentions. Are you just asking questions and may call you back? Are you coming to get my product and might make it Saturday or Sunday? Above all keep business friendly and straight forward.

IMHO

 

[aubreynoramarie]

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You are entitled to your 22yrd old opinions. I am entitled to my 39yrd old opinions. I regularly do business on a handshake or phone call and rarely have any issues. If you are going to contact someone about an interest make sure to clarify you're intentions. Are you just asking questions and may call you back? Are you coming to get my product and might make it Saturday or Sunday? Above all keep business friendly and straight forward.

IMHO

I wholeheartedly agree with everything you just said. I m just really struggling to figure out why this person I a flake when she never once said she WOULD be there, she said she MIGHT. it makes me feel really bad I guess.

Also I just don't see any justification to send a nasty e-mail like that. You may have been duped a hundred times, but it wasn't by the OP.

Sorry guys. If I were in the OPs shoes that e-mail would have made me feel crummy to, and I'm usually in the sellers shoes!

 

[dmiravalle]

Very interesting.

I am an avid craigslister, both on the buyers end and sellers end.

First from a buyers viewpoint - I have had things sold out from under us, after driving quite a ways to purchase the said item, very frustrating when someone promised to hold that item and you have committed to come and pick it up. But that is the nature of this type of business. A bird in the hand is better than two that might be in the bush. I understand that.

As a seller - For every item/animal I will have for sale, I will get many emails, a few phone calls, about 5-6 looky loos and one actual buyer. This is frustating, time consuming, and you will loose potential "for sure buyers". So I changed how I do things.

I will answer emails and questions. I do not give out my address until a for sure date and time is set. I ask the buyer (unless it is a horse/puppy/ animal I am selling) if they are committed to coming out and set the appt. I DO NOT remove my ad, until CASH is in HAND!!!

If I get further inquiries, I will take a waiting list!! This has been working well for me. I particulary listen for the words, "might", "if" this tells me this person has not actually made up their mind.

Sorry you had such and bad experience and he could have worded it better but try to remember he has probably had several. Now when he re-posts people are going to think something may be wrong with the animals and the previous buyer didn't want them.

 

[kuntrygirl]

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Well said.

 

[kuntrygirl]

Do the exclamation marks and CAPS make this email rude? I'm still trying to find out what's so rude about it. He is upfront, honest and to the point. Point blank.

VERY UNFORTUNATE!!! Now, I have told everyone they are sold! I’ll have to re-advertise now and start the whole process over again!!!!!

She said might get them today or tomorrow. That means I might get them today or I might get them on tomorrow. Either way, she will get them either day. She should have said I might get them without specifying a day and that would have meant that she may not get them. Specific days were specified.

If your place of employment said that you Might get paid on Monday or Tuesday, wouldn't you expect a check on either of those days? I would.

 

[redhen]

I think the guy was rude..if he didnt want to wait for the buyer..a simple response like:" Okay, i understand. I'll contact the next person who e-mailed me..."
No need for the caps and all the !!!!!!!!... Thats just weird.
He also chose to deny the buyers offer of a deposit... (which i understand, thats his choice)..but he did make that choice.