Okay my friend is in one of those clinical trials where they give you drugs and they test the effects on you, and it is an in-patient study so she has been there all week. She has a 5 yr old daughter and her husband works (hardly) so I've offered to watch her little girl all week (for free) as a favor because I know it would be hard on her to be away from her daughter for a whole week. My friend is getting 4,000 dollars for the study and they are planning on using the money to buy some land in Oklahoma and start to build a house. (IMO, I don't think the money will last that long and the whole thing is a pipe dream) I keep my opinions to myself though, I don't want to burst anyone's bubble. So yesterday, I was watching the little girl along with my 2 year old. She really had a hard time listening and following directions the whole day. I and to top it off, she slapped my daughter. My daughter had a big red mark on her face. I was irate, to say the least. I asked her very calmly what she did. She kept trying to tell me what my daughter did first, I asked her again what she did, and again she started to tell me "but Maya was..." I finally got her to tell me what she did and she said she spanked Maya (my daughter) Of course I wanted to spank her, but I don't spank, not even my daughter but I did yell, and put her in the corner. Well, I went through all of this, and later her dad picked her up, and I didn't mention how she acted, I have watched her many times, and for some reason I find it hard to say, "well she was horrible all day" when she usually is, she usually hits my daughter, and says it was an accident. I was supposed to watch her again today, although I was not looking forward to it, it seemed like her dad was running late, I called and he said, "the babysitting is over, I took off all weekend". I asked what day my friend will get out, and what time. He was very short with me, and said he hates talking on the phone, he had to go. After all that, I didn't get a thank you, a nice word, nothing. He could have called and said he didn't need me today, but he didn't even do that. I really felt like an idiot for being so nice, but I know I did this for my friend and not him. My husband seems to think that I should just tell my friend how he was acting with me, but I don't want to put our relationship at risk.