As a few of the posters have mentioned, people ARE different, but at least you have people on here that you can speak Poultry with. The thing I like about gardening is the fact that I dont have to spend $ at the store for things that are growing at home. I wanted to offer some suggestions, in hopes that maybe one will work! As far as not being alone, perhaps getting involved with your local 4-H group would help; 4-H'ers can keep you company while learning about things that interest them. Maybe even getting involved with a gardening or chicken club, you can find local ones through facebook. And lastly, what about having a date night with your husband & going to a cooking class? Doing that together may spark some interest for him to start making some things at home.
Remember too that Fibromyalgia (FMS) can cause us to feel down in the dumps a lot. I have both FMS and Rheumatoid Arthritis. I don't know why FMS can cause us to be depressed, but it does. It may have you feeling more down over the situation than you normally would though.
I do understand where you're coming from. I don't have an issue with my husband and the animals, as he loves them just as much as I do and will fill in for me when I'm in a lot of pain and will tend to them, but when it comes to helping around the house or in the garden, forget it. The house looks like a tornado hit it 'cause with me being sick, I can't keep running behind him and my daughter cleaning up from them being constant slobs, and the weeds can get knee high in the garden for all he cares. He's a junk food junkie too, lol! I do have to repeat myself a lot, but if I say something to him though, he'll do it.
Like others have said, if you can afford your animals and they make you happy, then keep them. Let him do his thing with the goats and his future pigs.
Understand too that many men don't think to do stuff after they get home from work. Maybe it's the old traditional ways that stick in their heads, ya know, the man works and brings home the bacon and the woman fries it up in a pan, lol!...I don't know. Even if we're working too, some seem to stay in that mindset unless you say something about it. That's just it though, he won't know there's a problem unless you talk with him. They honestly do not see things way we do. I swear, if we weren't all human, you'd think we were different species sometimes.
If he doesn't eat what you cook up, then just cook for yourself and let him eat what he wants. Maybe if you stop cooking and he has to cook his own stuff, he may get tired of the junk and appreciate your cooking more. Either that or he may develop health issues from eating so much junk...that's when he'll likely really appreciate your cooking wholesome foods. If not, then oh well, you just enjoy your food. I wouldn't feel guilty about not having money to do other things 'cause of your animals...he has his goats and wants pigs right? He spends money on junk food when there's already food in the house right? Or does things like buying peppers when there's already a bunch of them in the garden? Then why not enjoy spending money on what you want to and what gives you satisfaction?
I'll feel guilty about spending money on myself at times too. I'm always putting myself last. Everyone else had to be happy and fulfilled while I went without. Well, I found out what that did to my mental health. I became a very miserable person. It took my spirit away...as I never did anything for ME. I was a run down unhappy mess. Getting sick with RA and FMS made it worse. I try to think of myself more now. When the guilt seeps in I tell myself to shut up and to remember how miserable I was before. You need to take care of you too and part of taking care of yourself is doing things that make you happy.
As a few of the posters have mentioned, people ARE different, but at least you have people on here that you can speak Poultry with. The thing I like about gardening is the fact that I dont have to spend $ at the store for things that are growing at home. I wanted to offer some suggestions, in hopes that maybe one will work! As far as not being alone, perhaps getting involved with your local 4-H group would help; 4-H'ers can keep you company while learning about things that interest them. Maybe even getting involved with a gardening or chicken club, you can find local ones through facebook. And lastly, what about having a date night with your husband & going to a cooking class? Doing that together may spark some interest for him to start making some things at home.
If you enjoy your chickens and gardening as much as I do, then don't give them up. Watching my chickens is so relaxing and helps reduce the stress in my life. I look forward to seeing my girls everyday and peeking into the nest boxes to see what is there. The same with gardening. I love planting seeds and nurturing them into food for the table. You could also share your produce before you put it up. It is less work for you and I know my co-workers are thrilled to get fresh vegetables and eggs. You might be able to find a co-op to share your produce with in return for something you don't grow yourself.
My first husband was like that... The second one is almost TOO helpful, I've gotta tell him to back off every once in a while
I like doing things by myself from time to time.
Honestly, and I hate to go there, there may be more here than different hobbies and personalities. A man (or woman) who truly loves you shows interest in what makes you tick and what you like to do with your time. Of course, this has to go both ways.. perhaps an option? Try to invest some time in what he likes, and just maybe he will "get it".
I'm glad I split fairly amicably from my husband.. I just couldn't do it anymore, after 6 years. We had grown so far apart, completely different lives. I invested time and energy into his hobbies, but I couldn't say the same for him.
Shoes on the other foot here. I'm in this pretty much by myself, (rural lifestyle) but then? I pretty much new that 41 years ago when I married a city girl. Let's see, she likes books, puzzles, playing cards, going to choir, socializing, and what not. People are different. She's on her own for most of her likes too.
It was 49 years ago that I married a city girl. Our differences are what makes 'us' work as much as our similarities. The dogs, birds, and gardening are what I do because it makes me happy. I don't do decorating, shopping, theater and the things that make her happy. People are all different, and thanks to that. The differences are what make life interesting. I will say that if and when I have to travel, the Princess takes care of the animals with no complaints. It's all about respect, give and take.
Respect is definitely the key word here. It just seemed that OP doesn't get much of that, based on the post. But, it's just a post, I may be completely off
Do these things to make yourself happy and healthy. cook for yourself if no one.else eats it....less cooking for you. If you do it for yourself and enjoy what you do the others may come around over time. He may have flash backs from childhood that helps him make those choices. You can explain nicely how some of those.choices make you feel....he might not think about it that way. If he still wants to do it his way....well enjoy what YOU do even more.
I just found this thread....and am in your boat somewhat
I often feel alone with my wants and needs on and around the farm... it took me 6 months to get him to build my coop (and he is a Carpenter) he just kept saying "well I dont see why you cant do it" which I could of....But he is a Carpenter! and it will be WAY easier for him... it only took him a day once I convinced him! AUGGGG
I don't think alot of men feel the same way about chores as women.... somehow they just think its woman's work and not a big deal (Not all men).... I am at constant odds with my DH over this.... I dont mind the work... I do it for me not him... and he does enjoy all of my animals but he helps NONE! I only mind when he complains about stuff being done when he is NEVER the one to do it and then he acts all high and mighty... like if Forgot to close the chicken door at night (always a very good reason if it is forgot, like I'm in the middle of delivering puppies) and he is like " I cant believe you, you know something could have killed them last night, you must not even care about them!" or "So, What DID you do all day?" in 'that' tone .... and I am like I have 9 Great Danes inside with a litter of puppies, and a 3 year old, 50+ chicken ducks, and geese AND I am starting a pick your own orchard with over 300 trees that I hand dug each hole for and installed my own irrigation... I am now grafting trees and swapping scion orders, researching new stud males and trying to figure out a way to get (afford) an incubator.... and he will be like 'well that is your choice' ... Which it is but i wish he would just be more supportive! ... or less critical as it is not like he does anything about anything here.. he just comes home and wants dinner to be ready and Trey to be bathed and fed and everything to be perfect... HA
He wont even feed the dogs when Im in the middle of delivering puppies!!! He is like well just wait till that one is born and then you will have some time till the next one, I dont see why you need me to do it ......AUGGG! men!
and now he wants me to get a pig or cow! HA! not happening! I told him it would be 100% his responsibility if he brought one home... I know all about fence up-keep and feed for larger animals and I am not to that point yet! I have enough on my plate... he did not understand how I felt at all!
I do love him though... I think that everything in life is a trade... and he has some amazing qualities to make up for his other less amazing qualities.... every time I get mad at him I try and think of all of the things I love about him.... it helps, as long as I am not too mad... then I cant remember anything good!
Hang in there... O and we do have an arrgement that he has to at least try one bite of anything I grow at least once a year! but that is as far as I have gotten with his junck food habbit!
I am hoping to wear him down over the years! hahahaahah
As a few of the posters have mentioned, people ARE different, but at least you have people on here that you can speak Poultry with. The thing I like about gardening is the fact that I dont have to spend $ at the store for things that are growing at home. I wanted to offer some suggestions, in hopes that maybe one will work! As far as not being alone, perhaps getting involved with your local 4-H group would help; 4-H'ers can keep you company while learning about things that interest them. Maybe even getting involved with a gardening or chicken club, you can find local ones through facebook. And lastly, what about having a date night with your husband & going to a cooking class? Doing that together may spark some interest for him to start making some things at home. 
