Stay home

[addiedunn]

Really and truly, as for the the people who dress down for these 'events'; A psychologist will tell you that the only person they are showing a lack of respect for, is themselves.
Let me think again...was that a psychologist I heard that from or the guys on Queer eye for the Straight guy...? Hmmmm

 

[Wifezilla]

I think the "all guys need a suit" idea was started by suit manufacturers to increase sales. It's a conspiracy I tell ya!

Not only does hubby not own a suit, I don't own any dresses.

If anyone wears a suit to my funeral, I will have my will instruct the ushers to cut their ties and half like they do at some of the old steak houses

 

[chook pen jen]

Funerals are for the living, and the ritual is important , it's not important what the ritual is as long as you make peace with your self and your loss. The dead dont care. I think the tractor & harlies were great.

 

[Solace]

I once read a story about a guy's funeral. There was a picture attached to the story that showed the fella layed back in a recliner. He had sweats, socks/slippers on with a beer on the table with his favorite smokes and in one hand a tv remote. He had a steelers blanket with him. I thought it was very cool.

click on these only if you don't mind seeing someone deceased.

http://www.boomerdivanation.org/wp-content/uploads/2008/05/funeral.jpg

http://cache.deadspin.com/assets/resources/2006/08/hugesteelersfandead.jpg

As for me it's situational depending on the individual family.

 

[joebryant]

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Now that's what I call creative funeraling! Definitely deserving of black tie!

 

[Dar]

me personally....

I work in healthcare...i own many many sets of scrubs....my scrubs cost more then my casual wear...why??..cause i live in them..i spend 60+ hours in a week in them... and no i wont wear them to a funeral..but really i dont have much more then that to wear.

a funeral is more often then not an unexpected event...i dont have the time in 3 days from the death to the funeral to go shopping for an outfit that i will wear once cause by the next time i need a semi formal outfit my weight will have gone up or down...

i have worn jeans/slacks/ pants to a funeral and a wedding but there is a difference between dress casual to slob casual and sometimes even the accessories can make the difference

my typical funeral attire is.... black jeans (not faded ripped ect really dark black) a white blouse and a blazers type jacket..i have the accessories lapel pins, necklace ect.../ and yes in my jeans i have felt overdressed

i dont think its about what you wear its about the person inside...i went to my dh's grandmothers funeral dressed in a full matched outfit skirt blazer even pantyhose...lol spent over $300 on the total outfit including accessories...i was uncomfortable for the 8 hours we had to be there as family and was told by more then half the ppl who attended that i looked overdressed and like i was trying to hard...trying to be something/someone that I am not...a hoyty toyty tight arse.. (i was told this by family friends that know the real me..)

so i think the choice of attire is just politics...

i was grateful that people showed up to show their support for the family in a time of great sadness...really i did not notice what people were wearing just the fact that they were there for us in a time of need means more to me then i can put into words.

this is just my opinion and i dont want to start a debate or offend anyone..

please also remember not everyone has the money in this economic time to so and drop a couple hundred on a suit to make others happy..that couple of hundred maybe was put on the table to feed the children..please dont judge someone till you have walked in their shoes

 

[HennysMom]

Wow - this subject hits home for me as I've been to at least *thinking here* ......25 funerals in as many years and have seen the gauntlet of attire - and must say, not once did I care what someone was wearing. The important thing was was that they came to show their respects. I do agree however that cell phones are the most annoying thing ever - and should be turned off unless you are a policeman, fireman (paid not volunteer) or your wife is about to give birth - then vibrate is appropriate.

At my fathers funeral, it was a full military honors funeral and burial - we had full military dress for some and others were in jeans, dress shirt and tie - others in jeans, dress shirt and no tie, still others in suits. Same for the wake - others came right from work in grungy work uniforms to pay their respects and you know what? I didnt care one flipping bit what they were wearing - all I cared about was that they were THERE to honor my father, to pay their respects and to be there to support us as a family.

Whats that saying I always hear...something like this:

"A friend will pick up the phone when you call at 2:00 a.m. from the jail and ask what you need and why you're calling at this ungodly hour...

a TRUE FRIEND will be sitting there beside you in the cell saying "darn, that was fun!"

Know the difference people... I certainly do.