Teen caught Sneaking out Again!

[Bubba]

Patchofheaven I wish you the best of luck!

I'm glad you read everyones posts then decided for yourself what needed to be done. Just remember regardless of the choice you make it will be a tough one and the road will be bumpy at least for a while. I just hope it works out for both kids in a positive aspect. Give us updates to cuz even the guys on here seem to be gossip lovers hahaha

ttyl,

Bubba

 

[AccidentalFarm]

Good luck with your phone call this afternoon. Please do keep us posted!

 

[Patchofheaven]

Well, I'm frustrated again...

I called the girlfriend's mom yesterday and was told by one of the kids that she was busy and would call me back later. I watched her pull in, park and then I waited about 30 minutes to let her get settled in before I called. She still hasn't called, I've left her 2 messages and am not calling her anymore. My husband and I just drove past her and she was standing by the road pouring gas into her tractor, she just turned her head and looked the other way. My husband got out of the truck, checked the mailbox and unlocked our gate and the whole time she made sure that she didn't look our way. She is avoiding us like the plague.

Yesterday, I had talked to my son's girlfriend, she was really worried about exactly what I was going to tell her stepmom. I told her as long as she told her parents the truth she would have nothing to worry about because I only intended to make sure that she told them the truth. She told me that she told her parents that she had only snuck (sp?) out of the house twice - which I know is a lie because my son told me that this has been happening for the last 2 months, at least a few times a week.

If they're not wanting to talk to us about this then I'm not going to worry about it anymore. My son is grounded for a month (no telephone or going to friend's houses etc...) I think he has learned a major lesson and grown from this experience. I think his biggest punishment is not knowing what her punishments will be from her parents. It's kind of funny in a way, he has been jumping to help around the house which is kinda unusual - I usually have to ask him twice to do something.

 

[HobbyChickener]

I would love to find out how you are going to cure this. I have a 13 going on 25 daughter that will have me bald and or grey by the time that I reach 35. My wife caught her loggin on the computer at 2 a.m. . This was back in January, might have been Feb., however I changed her password and eliminated her instant messager account. She still does not have free access to the computer. I also have a program that only allows access to the computer for anyone freely during certain times of the day 8-6. After that she can only get on if I put in the password. With technology today this is one thing that can be very controlled with our kids. It is a huge pain for her to not be able to get on whenever she can but I will get the point across.

For the sneaking out maybe your best bet will be to handle it entirely from your end. If the other parents aren't willing to speak with you about what is going on between the kids then you handle it. Sit them down together and talk to them about it and stress the major complication that this could cause in their life if something went wrong in the throws of passion. As well as the fact (at least in my state) if she is 17 and he is 15 that could be considered statutory rap if really came down to it. They are becoming adult and we really have to work on treating them that way even with the punishments they get from screwing up. Go with the old saying "punishment should fit the crime and if you are going to do the crime then be willing to do the time. Good luck I REALLY waiting on the outcome.

 

[Bubba]

The sad thing is... You have no idea what you could be doing to the neighbors kid. Just because you are a good parent does not mean they are. How would you like to find out that they pulled her out of school her senior year and did not let her finish. (Yes I know of stories just like this.)

From what you have described her parents as... I truely feel sorry for this kid. Also did you ask your Son, did he admit that YES they are having sex? Unlike what other people have said, not all kids have sex right off and there is more then one reason to sneak out. It might have been something more than a kiss but less then sex. You never know maybe your Son was just trying to help her out, talk to her (Make her feel better after a beating or worse). How do you know if SHE is being abused physically or sexually. Your SON is sure as hell not gona tell you if she is being sexually abused (He is going to GREAT LENGTHS to protect her.) If anything shows Maturity it is that he is protecting his mate/friend (We don't know which right?) at any cost to himself! (Regardless if you see her as that or not!)

Remember there is Always more to a story then people know or assume.... Hope this gives you another perspective.

ttyl,

Bubba

 

[frankenchick]

A handy way to stop late-night logging on is to unplug the computer, then put a luggage lock through one of the prongs so that it can't be plugged back in. Luggage locks are those tiny little padlocks sold with luggage.

My friend uses them to make sure homework gets done before she gets home from work.

 

[joanm]

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I knew a kid exactly like this. Today he is a foul-mouthed drunk and blames everyone else for his problems.

 

[Southern28Chick]

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I knew a kid exactly like this. Today he is a foul-mouthed drunk and blames everyone else for his problems.

 

[Lunachick]

frankenchick, I like your signature.

and Bubba, Your'e funny

 

[Lunachick]

Smiley's are working part time tonight?