When someone gives you something it becomes yours, and as such it's up to you to decide what to do with it. It doesn't matter what she or anyone else thinks, it's yours. So dump it and let her calm down. You don't owe her any apology or explanation at all.
REcently a friend of mine asked me if I wanted her couch. I knew the couch and she knew I was looking for a couch for the basement for the kids. (my basement is not finished I am hopeful, but it isn't finished)
The deal was that we would get the couch and she would have us help her get rid of other items she wanted to have removed for free. SOme of it would be trash and some of it might be good pickings. So we brought our trailer and DH and I hauled it all out.
It filled the whole trailer and the back of our truck! But, it turned out that the couch was in MUCH worse shape than she had indicated. SHe said she didn't want it any more because her puppy had chewed on it some. SOME?? It was seriously chewed up. There is not one cushion that isn't chewed and big chunks are missing. I had thought to throw a cover over it, but it is full of holes!
So now it is sitting in my garage while I decide what to do.
So she asks me if I put it in the garage and I told her no. I said it was in worse shape than I had expected and I wasn't sure we were going to keep it at all. I asked her if she wanted it back. SHe said no and hung up. She just called back and lit into me for leaving the couch where mice and other animals could get at it! Say what?? It is in such bad shape that she gave me two cushions in trash bags! They don't held together on their own they're so chewed up!
Am I within my rights to throw this thing out since I did offer it back and she had said we were helping her "get rid of it"?
wow.
You are totally within your rights to throw it out.
Heck I would drive it back to her house and leave it on her front lawn and call it even.
NO way am I taking it back - way too much trouble!!
She lives too far away! And I sure am not paying the dump to take it. I am with run- a -muck. If I finally give up on the thing - up it goes!!
Really, I am going to let it sit a bit until I am feeling ready to pull the plug. I'll give her one more shot, she can come get it (which she can't do really) or I chuck it.
The only good thing we got from the deal was a set of bookshelves.......
The reality is she feels bad as she knows exactly how bad of condition the couch was in ( hence the bags for the cushions) and knows that was the bargaining chip for you to take her stuff. She's now trying to act like the couch was in better shape but is getting ruined sitting in your garage. It is just to make her feel better, toss it, don't bring it up again and if she does , just say it was mine to do what I want with and it didnt go with my decor like I thought it would and drop it. In the future don't do any trades with her.... she doesnt play fair.
she's probably all stressed out and being looney tunes because of that. moving isn't fun. if she is being posessive, ask her if she wants it back. THAT should be end of story.
NO way am I taking it back - way too much trouble!!
She lives too far away! And I sure am not paying the dump to take it. I am with run- a -muck. If I finally give up on the thing - up it goes!!
Really, I am going to let it sit a bit until I am feeling ready to pull the plug. I'll give her one more shot, she can come get it (which she can't do really) or I chuck it.
The only good thing we got from the deal was a set of bookshelves.......
BURN IT!!!
BURN IT!!!!
BURN IT!!!!
BON FIRE SEASON IS HERE!!!!! YIPPY SKIPPY!!!
Personally I can't wait for our first offical BonFire (or BombFire as some call it when there out here)...We save our Christmas tree for that frist 'offical' fire....(after the birds are done with if of course)
oh, yeah sorry about the mad smiley....it was the closed one on here for a "FireSmiley"!!!