Terrible Two you say?

[Sonoran Silkies]

I've heard as children grow older and suddenly are no longer the center of everybody's world (I cry, someone picks me up, holds and feeds me and comes running serving my every need), they develop behaviors as they gradually learn to cope with this realization. I have no children but this sounds like a logical stage for a kid to go through....

Studies have shown that kids whose every need is met when they are very young are much more confident as they mature and assert their independence. So when Great Aunt Agatha (or whoever) tells you to stop picking up your child, or going to him/her when she cries because you will spoil them, there is documented research that that is not the case.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

Lillian would be a great example of this. She's incredibly confident, independent, and intelligent. Sometimes I think too smart for her own good.

But, she's also the center of Mommy's universe. Everything in the house revolves around Lillian. Period. At all times. The house is pretty much a giant Lillian play room.

Is she a bit spoiled? Probably. But, she's also better behaved and more confident than say, my cousins kids who are never given attention and made to play by their selves.

 

[eenie114]

Lillian would be a great example of this. She's incredibly confident, independent, and intelligent. Sometimes I think too smart for her own good.

But, she's also the center of Mommy's universe. Everything in the house revolves around Lillian. Period. At all times. The house is pretty much a giant Lillian play room.

Is she a bit spoiled? Probably. But, she's also better behaved and more confident than say, my cousins kids who are never given attention and made to play by their selves.

I think kids need to be the center of Mommy's universe much more often. That's not spoiled, that's just loved!

Sour, I better not be on the list of possible mentors. I already mentor up to seven.

My calender is FULL.

 

[sourland]

Kids need to know that they matter - plain and simple. Trust me when I say that life is a lonely place until/unless you have a place to belong.

There is no such thing as showing 'too much love'.

 

[redhen]

Em, ya gotta post a video (like the ones you share on FB) Of Lilly,...
You guys will SEE how smart and adorable this kid is...
Maybe dont have to post one of her face(if that bothers you)... but of how she reacts/responds to you... sooo stinkin' SMART! She really is..

 

[EmtheFishLady]

 

[redhen]

Shes adorable..

 

[newfoundland]

I Once read the very sad, true story of a woman who had been an orphan from the age of six. She had grown up in children's homes in the days when they were very rigid disciplined institutions, where love was never shown, or thought important. She had to leave at 15 and find work. Her whole life was a string of poor low paid jobs, abusive relationships and every kind of misery there is, poor housing, poor health etc. Eventually she became pregnant and this inspired her to change her life around. The one thing that kept her going through all her numerous trials was the memory of being loved by her mother, in her very early life. This is a testament to the power of a parent's love! Never be afraid to love your children too much I say!!

 

[sourland]

That girl has got the 'country' moves.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

Odd thing about her dancing is, she's done that since she was very, very small...and I can't dance at all.