Because if stuff like this with families I will stop going to family gatherings as soon as my mom dies, because my lazy brothers refuse to take her to see her side of the family 75% or better are 100% toxic. Why do I call them lazy? because they want to go and attend most gatherings but refuse to take her because they don't want to spend the half an hour round trip to pick her up and drop her off at our house, and they do not want to be inconvenienced by me picking her up and drop her off and having her in their homes a couple or three hours due to my work schedule. So I miss a day of work most times they get together (I work retail we don't know what a weekend or holiday is in this line of work).