"That's just how they are..."

[SillyChicken]

Stinks that you have to go through so much stupid drama, especially during the holidays.

 

[RoeDylanda]

Christmas throwdown Texas style!

Yikes, I can only imagine that one! We've had a bit of drama with DH's family over the years, and it's been great to watch him man up and learn to tell them "No." Our rule is when my family goes off the rails, I have to talk to them, and when his does, he's up. It's preserved family harmony pretty well so far.

 

[sfw2]

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I believe that the Spirit of Christmas motto should be "Show up or cram it - and God bless us, every one!"

We don't live near my family OR DH's. That is our Christmas gift to each other.

 

[dreamcatcherarabians]

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Don't forget good southern hospitality now. If you hear another word from them just say, "Well Thank y'all for tellin me you can't make it. I'm so sorry to hear that. Bless your heart!". And rock on and party with the folks who understand that the hostess runs the game.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm having a similar situation here. Friend and I decide we need to have goose for Christmas dinner this year. We decided this LAST year at Christmas dinner. So, I went out and bought a couple of live geese to fatten and fix up for dinner. First she decides the geese are too cute to eat and refuses to eat them. So ok, I got a little attached to them, so I agreed and we were to split the cost of the goose. Then I decided, no, it's my turn to fix dinner and you don't invite folks over and ask them to pay for their meal, that's just bad manners. So I ordered the goose on my dime. NOT a problem.

HOWEVER, she calls up and says she's bringing a ham because her husband hates fat and is afraid he won't like the goose. Oh and by the way can I leave the celery out of the stuffing? So I asked her if she was really meaning to sound as insulting as she was being? No no no, no insult intended but he just hates fat and can't eat it and geese are fatty birds, ya ya ya. WTHeck? It was decided I should be the cook when we decided to cook a goose because I am a GOOD cook. Whatever happened to the old, "If you don't like something, chew it up and swallow and leave the rest on your plate."? Not like I'm not fixing the whole spread here, he's not going to starve. Eat a sandwich when you get home if you don't like the very goose.

So now I'm bent out of shape about the goose and don't particularly care if we ever do another holiday meal together. Bless their hearts.

 

[easttxchick]

You're absolutely right, dreamcatcherarabians, where are my manners?
"Show up or cram it. Bless your hearts."
By the way, I was just in Oklahoma for the first time in my life a couple of weeks ago-FANTASTIC place with awesome people, Oklahoma rocks!
Sorry about your holiday drama-ain't it grand?
Oh well, I've been so cranky this holiday season anyway, this just cements the fact that I have RIGHTLY deserved the coal that will surely be in my stocking(bless my heart)!

 

[WingingIt]

Dinner will be at 5:00. Sounds like you can't make it. Too bad. Maybe we'll see you next year.



I think it's great that you invited others, we do that every year. It's a lot of fun, plus more people to eat the too much food we always end up with.

 

[gritsar]

Still can't stop thinking about putting on my boots that are good for kickin' *something* and crashing your holiday meal.

If DH wasn't working Christmas eve & Day we'd be there in a heartbeat. Something about DH's presence makes folks remember their manners in a hurry.

 

[Frogdogtimestwo]

Are our in-laws related? Your story sound awfully familiar with the drama playing out for our Christmas holiday! I have been made the B#%$h because I refuse to be a doormat to anyone. We have been planning a mountain cabin getaway for a YEAR, OUR IDEA, we invited family but laid some simple ground rules the biggest being NO DOGS ARE TO BE BROUGHT, we talked about this for the last 11 months and low and behold last week I was told there are 5 dogs coming to this vacation.....(10 people in a 3 bedroom cabin) They can all afford to board their dogs or ask one of the 500 relatives that live in their town but but no, they want to bring them. I am paying a fortune to a pet sitter to watch our 3 dogs, horse, donkey, too many chickens to count, sheep and turkeys! I then told them we are not coming then, have fun so magically they found boarding for 2 of them. And I am being made out as the bad person because THEY can't keep their word and do what ever they want no matter what. Ughhh!!! So frustrated and my husband just says "why are you surprised this is just how they are" I personally think he should stand up for me but NO he lets me take the heat because he can't stand up to his parents! The dinner menu plans are also a huge contention because she insisted on cooking all the main meals and our child is gluten free/dairy free and NOTHING she is making he can eat, so I will be cooking a second meal when I could have just cooked the meals in the first place

After typing this I need a glass of wine already

My family is NOTHING like this, I just don't understand......

 

[easttxchick]

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That would be the BEST Christmas present I could get-to have you and your DH here. Sadly though, it would be just like he was on duty, you know what with havin' to keep the peace and all.

Frogdogtimestwo IF in fact our in-laws are related, it's YOUR Christmas with them.-I had them last year.

I'm sorry, I know that having family drama on a normal day is bad enough, but geeze, can't they give it a rest at Christmas?

 

[Frogdogtimestwo]

Well this is my last fiasco with his parents, they have not changed a bit in 15 years of being together and I am not doing this for them again. We tried this cabin to meet on neutral ground but they just don't get it, I AM DONE, they have lost because my husband would rather stay at home alone than deal with them anyway. Hope your Christmas dinner goes smoother than expected for you. I feel better now that I vented, hope you do too!