The Evolution of Atlas: A Breeding (and Chat) Thread

[speckledhen]

Dog has one last test that must be made by the vet on the 5th day before the flight. Any chance the dog can't be found that day?

I wish. I almost think my son feels he's being mean, or unfair or underhanded if he does things like that, but from experience, I know that sometimes being the "good" person gets you nothing but cheated and hurt and left holding nothing; the saying that "desperate times call for desperate measures" is true in this case. But, he's 41 years old and if he doesn't stand up for himself and what's right, I can't force him to do it. If it was me, you bet I'd play dirty and do everything I could to save that dog from an uncertain fate. He can be hurt and cry later. Now is the time to be cold and calculating and do what is necessary for the desired outcome. At least, that's the way I feel about it.

If you've seen Roadhouse, the line Patrick Swayze says about how to deal with the drunks and to "be nice" until it's time to not be nice rings true here.

 

[getaclue]

I tend to take after "doubting Thomas". Can he actually show anyone that tiny shred of decency she has left? If he claims it's because she signed the house, and content over to him, that wasn't really showing decency on her part. She doesn't have the time, or money to get a judge involved, ordering it to be sold, and the remaining monies divided. She's in a hurry, and selling the place would slow her down. In addition, she seems to think this person she's going to hook up with, has deep pockets, so she won't need the money. It's convenient to her. None of this adds up to proof of decency. Separating a bonded pair of dogs is the opposite of proof of decency. I see some decency, but he's got it, not her.

 

[getaclue]

When faced with an adversary, and believe me she is his ADVERSARY, not his friend, a person SHOULD protect themselves, their loved ones, their pets, and their belonging. She's the one being mean, and underhanded. He's got every right to protect himself, and the dogs from her mean, underhandedness. That's why there's a saying about "all's fair in love, and war".

 

[speckledhen]

I tend to take after "doubting Thomas". Can he actually show anyone that tiny shred of decency she has left? If he claims it's because she signed the house, and content over to him, that wasn't really showing decency on her part. She doesn't have the time, or money to get a judge involved, ordering it to be sold, and the remaining monies divided. She's in a hurry, and selling the place would slow her down. In addition, she seems to think this person she's going to hook up with, has deep pockets, so she won't need the money. It's convenient to her. None of this adds up to proof of decency. Separating a bonded pair of dogs is the opposite of proof of decency. I see some decency, but he's got it, not her.

When faced with an adversary, and believe me she is his ADVERSARY, not his friend, a person SHOULD protect themselves, their loved ones, their pets, and their belonging. She's the one being mean, and underhanded. He's got every right to protect himself, and the dogs from her mean, underhandedness. That's why there's a saying about "all's fair in love, and war".

I'm 100% with you, Cheryl. I just have to stop obsessing at a certain point or the frustration will eat at me. Now, if he tries to bring her back into his life at any point in time, I draw the line and all you-know-what will break loose. She will never be my DIL, I don't care what her legal status is; frankly, I never truly considered her as such. Good grief, she's 11 years younger than I am! She is not welcome in my home or our lives. I have a feeling she is about to get what's coming to her because she is being played like a fine violin by whoever that is over there. Too bad that sweet dog is caught in the middle.

Stay tuned for the next installment of "As the Stomach Turns..."

 

[getaclue]

I totally understand. Yes, stop obsessing. It's better to give him assurances that he will get over his broken heart, and be better off in time.

 

[speckledhen]

I totally understand. Yes, stop obsessing. It's better to give him assurances that he will get over his broken heart, and be better off in time.

Doing my best to keep him looking forward!

Getting back to the original intent of this thread, Atlas. My old man is acting differently. He has issues with his joints, as you know, but today, on his outside time, when I went to get him and his four girls back inside, I found him laying down in front of the gate, just sitting there, sort of listed over to the side. He wasn't sunbathing, either. As I walked up, I was asking him if he was okay and just as I got to the gate, he stood up. But, later, I looked in on him and he was sleeping on the floor with his hens standing around. It seems a little ominous because as Suede was going downhill over the course of a two month time period, he'd nap outside on the ground or in his coop with Meg watching over him. His crow sounded weak. So far, Atlas's crow sounds normal, though Tom said he didn't hear him answer Hector this morning and it seemed odd to him because they play off each other. He's a little thinner but then, he's been molting, too, like many of the birds now. He's my sweet old man, my Atlas, and we care about that big guy. He's going on 5 years old now.

 

[getaclue]

Sorry to hear about Atlas.

 

[seminolewind]

I guess 5 is old for a roo? Yea it seems like they get tireder and tireder.

 

[seminolewind]

Much as my son's life drama is affecting me, I have my own life to be concerned with-he's a grown man who was duped by a woman....well, that never happened to anyone before, eh? In turn, I guess she's getting her just desserts, too. Awful that there is a sweet dog caught in the middle, but thank God there is not a CHILD caught in the middle!

Right now, aside from my son's dramas, I'm wondering about what will happen to me if my husband passes on first. His life insurance runs out at a certain point that we're not sure about, maybe at 75, but we have to recheck that. If not, that is $50K, which would pay the remainder of the mortgage with extra left over. Other than that, I'll only be able to draw half of his SS at 67. That's roughly $600 to live on. I worked only 23 quarters so I can't draw any myself, which is quite the system...I pay in, but unless I have a full 40 quarters' worth (and that's not just time, but a certain amount of income as well), I can get zero back. So, how can I live on that much with no IRA, no SS of my own, almost no savings, no life insurance payout? That is something we are now thinking about here. Naturally, I cannot have a house payment to deal with on that income; there are 11 years left on the mortgage, pymt is $427, though I'm paying a little extra to principal every month to hopefully cut some time off of it. But, even with no house payment, just monthly Medicare, electricity, telephone/internet (I'd have to drop the TV from that entirely) adds up to about $300, half of that piddly income. Then, there is gasoline, vehicle upkeep, insurance, pet food (how could I keep chickens?) and, well, I have to eat something. And what about unexpected stuff? So, this is where our minds are now.

All my assets are tied up in this property. Reverse mortgage is a possibility if it comes to that. If I die, he is fine. He has his Air Force pension, plus his SS and, if it's in the time frame before the life insurance runs out, he has $50K as well. Life would go on pretty much as usual for him, except for my scintillating company, LOL. We have a two-for-one policy, meaning the first one to die is the one who is covered.

I'm hoping that there must be something we have not thought about. Guess we'll just have to start socking away more $$ if we're able every month. But, I say all that to stress that my son is an adult and he will do what he will do, handle his life the way he wants, regardless of if I approve or not, think he's being used or not, etc. I have my own stuff to deal with and my life is not as long as I've been on this earth already. It may not be as long as I've lived in this house, who knows? We never know.

Medicare is half the battle. It's good to have health insurance. You will def. have to downsize and sell what you have and get something smaller and affordable. Or sell a few acres to build homes on. Don't give up tv. You could try that free digital service or hopefully by that time there will be tv easily gotten online. I know Amazon is working on it and I do watch new series' online at times.
You'd be surprised at how much you can afford on a smaller income. I went part time years ago and it didn't feel like I had half the money. It felt like I had to tighten a bit.

 

[seminolewind]

Actually, it's funny. Things seemed bigger or smaller, or farther away or closer. I kept getting lost on roads I know like the back of my hand because of the nearer/farther thing. Really weird.

Officially an 11 year member! Yeah!