The Evolution of Atlas: A Breeding (and Chat) Thread

[1muttsfan]

 

[getaclue]

I know he loves her, and he's hurting. He can't just turn off his love, or the pain of losing her like a light switch, even if she's not worthy of his love. He's going to hurt, and have a big empty place in his heart for awhile. Even rationalizing that she's not worth it, and he really does know she's not, it still doesn't stop the emotional ache, and fill the void.

What he does need to understand, is emotionally she has moved on. Even if he longs for her to stay, or return if things don't go well, it would only be a band-aid effect on his pain. Again, she has moved on emotionally. He will forevermore be more in the "friend" category, never again in the "love" category. He needs to follow her lead, and move on. Yes, it hurts, but this too shall pass.

 

[speckledhen]

Yes, you're 100% right, Cheryl. I never even liked her so I don't get it, but it is what it is. She leaves for England today. Maybe when she's gone, he can finally start to heal. And it will be even better when the divorce is officially final on paper. I am happy he doesn't also have to grieve over losing Ghost and watching Sophie grieve as well.

ETA: I just saw that he was up at 2 a.m. at Planet Fitness working out his frustration. So, he didn't get to bed until around 5 a.m. and I know he had to be at work soon afterward. I hope his life can be normal soon. I know he's working out to get his health back, but this time, it was because of his emotional state. He also needs to sleep. Being so much overweight, working long hours, trying to exercise at ungodly hours and being emotionally overwrought, I worry that he is prime for a heart attack.

 

[speckledhen]

O. M. G. my son just found the guy's mother's Facebook page where his mother bemoans her son's 20th birthday this past August, complete with photos of a morbidly obese young male on the couch with his infant sister....yes, sister. And on Oct. 8, his mother posted that her son was just starting a job that day and would soon be moving out soon, that she was so proud of him (of course, he is, when his old lady shows up to support him, LOL). Yeah, so he's a 30 year old engineer with a 2 year old daughter? That was the line she was fed all along.


She's been catfished.

Then, my son posted this early today:

Mike Bacon
2 hrs ·
Funny thing....a frumpy 51 year old woman is about to land in Manchester to be with her 20 year old boyfriend...how well y’all think that’s gonna work out?!?! Bah ahaha ha!

Wanna take bets how long it will be before she is calling crying, wanting to come back home to him? She bet her entire life on some lonely fat kid's fantasy games. She cashed in her 401K, quit her job, sold her nice SUV, signed away her interest in the house, filed for divorce from a hardworking husband who adored her and never would have looked at another woman, spent a wad of cash to send goods to England, all for a big, fat LIE. You NEVER, EVER know who you are talking to on the internet, not really. She ought to know that at her age, for cripes sake, enough not to bet the farm on it!

....if he lowers himself to help her when she calls crying to him, well, you know the saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." I wonder what happens at "Fool me thrice..."


Now, we wait for the mushroom cloud......

 

[Leahs Mom]

Is it at all possible that the guy that the mom was referring to was one of his brothers?

And...is this woman totally inept? Everyone knows how to get some intel by looking around on FB and other modes. Why wouldn't she have checked him out? It just seems too unreal to me that she wouldn't have checked him out, that she would have done the things she's done to divest of everything here, etc., without taking a test meeting and doing some bg checking.

Just doesn't make sense to me. Unless we're talking about someone that's mentally handicapped?

 

[speckledhen]

Is it at all possible that the guy that the mom was referring to was one of his brothers?

And...is this woman totally inept? Everyone knows how to get some intel by looking around on FB and other modes. Why wouldn't she have checked him out? It just seems too unreal to me that she wouldn't have checked him out, that she would have done the things she's done to divest of everything here, etc., without taking a test meeting and doing some bg checking.

Just doesn't make sense to me. Unless we're talking about someone that's mentally handicapped?

Makes no sense to me, either. I mean, you can make a fake persona on FB or anywhere online...just watch Dr. Phil and see men and women who should know better sending money to someone they think is in love with them, to the tune of thousands of dollars, and it turns out to be some smarmy person in Nigeria, a scam operation. It boggles the mind, really.
***Adding that the mother called him by name, the same name as my son's former wife's guy so it's the same guy, not a brother.
But, there is a photo, face only, of my former DIL and her boy-toy together, a mash-up, that she posted somewhere (oh, it was on her phone-my son had access to her acct, unbeknownst to her, after the second time he caught her messing around online with some guy), and the face is the same face as the guy in the photo where the woman was saying was her son turning 20 years old. It doesn't show anything below the chin in the photograph so you'd never know he was an obese teenager. He has a 5 o'clock shadow so it's hard to tell how old he is in the photo. It says XX + XX under their closeups put together. Yeah, unless my former DIL is sophisticated enough to throw my son a false trail (NOT), then it does appear to be the same person.

And yes, I've always thought she was off, Sue, ever since before they got married. It's not a hindsight thing-my husband and I have had hundreds of conversations about how we never trusted nor liked this woman, that the first chance she got, the first offer, she'd leave my son high and dry.

You know, this is an aberration for me to post anything truly personal on a forum, but this situation is so bizarre, I am flummoxed. I can't believe it, even though I rather expected her to dump my son eventually. This, though, is beyond anything I ever imagined would happen.

 

[kitkat5505]

So hard to believe she would jump into things without digging more, especially when it’s so easy to find info on anyone these days. But some people just don’t think. I have an older relative who is one of those people who gets caught in scams by people claiming to love her online. She almost got in legal trouble from an online “boyfriend” passing along stolen goods through her. And I’ve witnessed her messaging a guy who sweet talked her and then was asking to borrow money, begging her to just go to the bank and get a loan or use a credit card to wire him money he needed right away. Luckily she really had no money or credit cards. So yeah, some people are that gullible, especially when they are desperate for attention.

 

[speckledhen]

So hard to believe she would jump into things without digging more, especially when it’s so easy to find info on anyone these days. But some people just don’t think. I have an older relative who is one of those people who gets caught in scams by people claiming to love her online. She almost got in legal trouble from an online “boyfriend” passing along stolen goods through her. And I’ve witnessed her messaging a guy who sweet talked her and then was asking to borrow money, begging her to just go to the bank and get a loan or use a credit card to wire him money he needed right away. Luckily she really had no money or credit cards. So yeah, some people are that gullible, especially when they are desperate for attention.

Then, you get how it happens. Me, I'm too suspicious of people. You have to be, even if you meet them. I am suspicious of people who try to befriend me too fast, etc. But, she's being just brain-dead-stupid here. By the looks of the guy's mother, Shea is at least 10 years older than she is. What if this boy doesn't even know about all this and his identity is being used like they do for these scams?

Shea said his mother has a job lined up for her, but what if he's just been been playing around and lying about that as well and his mother knows absolutely nothing about his online activities? That will be an interesting meeting, if there even is a meeting. She could be waiting at the airport and no one ever shows up at all, because he knows he can't meet up with her and reveal that it was all a game. Oh, I can think of so many scenarios!

By the way, Cheryl, he says the locks on the house are being changed, said that just this morning.

 

[getaclue]

Let's hope it's a match made in heaven. At least, until you son has time to get over her, so he won't let her come back into his life, if she starts crying about the mistake she's made.

 

[speckledhen]

Let's hope it's a match made in heaven. At least, until you son has time to get over her, so he won't let her come back into his life, if she starts crying about the mistake she's made.

You know, this thing about the dog was very odd. First, they want an extra $125 for him to travel and he has had/done all the necessary things to go to the UK, by all the online stuff I've read. Then, they call her and say he can't go on a Friday, that dogs cannot travel on a weekend so he'll have to go on a different flight, and she gets all upset. Then, the same day, only hours later, the airline calls and says the dog cannot go at all because he did not come from the UK originally. That doesn't sound kosher to me. It sounds like someone pretending to be the airline called and told her that. But, if that was so, why would the airline refund any money they'd taken (if they had already taken it) for the dog? I know it wasn't my son's doing. He wondered if she only said the airline nixed the dog to save face, maybe because she had second thoughts or maybe her boy-toy didn't want the dog there. She's not kind enough to relinquish having her way. Anyway, it's Twilight Zone time....