The Evolution of Atlas: A Breeding (and Chat) Thread

[speckledhen]

Well, he's sounding somewhat better.

Yes, he is. I don't want to continually bore you with his troubles, but I wanted to show that he does seem to be coming out of his very dark place and making real progress in going forward.

 

[1muttsfan]

I like to hear how he's doing, and know how important it is to you and Tom.

 

[speckledhen]

I like to hear how he's doing, and know how important it is to you and Tom.

You're very sweet, Mary. It makes me feel better to see him moving forward and concentrating on himself instead of pining over someone who is just not worthy of him. The more personal progress he makes, the further away the hurt will feel. and a whole new world will open up for him, I think.

 

[1muttsfan]

Does he hear anything from the ex?

 

[speckledhen]

Does he hear anything from the ex?

I don't think he's heard anything from her in awhile, not since she got the final divorce decree and there is nothing he has that she is entitled to now. Let her stay over there and leave him alone FOR-E-VER! I don't want her coming back here and thinking that she'll just sashay in and take the dog to live with her. She's lost her entire life, gave it up for a kid barely out of his teens, so let her reap the reward of her actions but in a far away land...far, far away.

 

[Leahs Mom]

It is good to hear how he's doing.

 

[speckledhen]

Thank you, Sue. One thing you may snicker at, though-I gave him my desktop computer that I bought after the house fire when I got my touchscreen one. He called the other day and said the hard drive died. He didn't have anything important on it, but that was the one he was getting into her email accounts and FB inbox with to see what was happening across the pond and if he accesses them from another computer, it may alert her to his meddling. So, something sort of stepped in to detach him from that stuff. And frankly, now that they are officially divorced, it was veering into the stalking realm anyway. So, it was for the best. He can focus on his own life, not the one they no longer had together.

 

[Leahs Mom]

You are right but...I do understand his desire to find out how things are going. There is some kind of solace knowing that things aren't as she thought they'd be. Besides that, it kind-of validates to him that maybe he's not so bad after all... And that the crazy one really is her.

 

[speckledhen]

You are right but...I do understand his desire to find out how things are going. There is some kind of solace knowing that things aren't as she thought they'd be. Besides that, it kind-of validates to him that maybe he's not so bad after all... And that the crazy one really is her.

I agree with everything you said. I still think eventually, she'll end up back here and maybe he wants to be prepared if there are signs that her return is imminent. I get it. He may still try to spy a little to see what's going on, but this computer breakdown gets him away from it for awhile until he figures out how to go about it again, if he does.

 

[getaclue]

I have several reasons, but it's actually a good thing he can't spy on her anymore. It's one more thread that connects them, being cut, so he can move on. Hopefully, he won't figure out how to re-connect to her.

She may full well end up back here eventually. That's even more reason for him to move forward, and put her behind him, with as much emotional distance as possible. He's really hurting now, and still has a secret hope that she will be miserable and come back to him. It takes time for that hurt to heal, and to get to a place that he won't want her back.