The Front Porch Swing

[lazy gardener]

TTMom, Congrats big time on the wedding. I'm happy for your family.

Vehve: Awesome little chicklets. What's the top hat bird?

 

[Amberjem]

Amber, yeah, what she said! Under the Oleo Acres thingy there is a link to both Scout's adventure and to the video of him out in the coop running around like he has two good feet!

wow lookit how big he has gotten thanks for sharing the vid and info I miss alot of the signature things and am glad you and your babies are all doing well

 

[Tomtommom]

Sietske - Justin has a serious case to get permanent custody of the boy. No judge is going to decide that his living with his mom is the "stable home" that they look for when they decide who gets custody. Start documenting all of this and present it to the court with a request for custody. I'm sure Justin wouldn't give a rat's patootie about financial support from the ex, just give me the boy and we'll be good.

And the orange jumpsuit and leg irons? Mental instability fashion statement or was there an officer of the law escorting her into court?

He has permanent custody. Custody is over. Done. That got all signed a few months ago. She actually agreed because it states Justin will pay the marital debts. It's all about money. There's a separate hearing to go over child support... she wants to be able to use him as a tax asset every other year. In my opinion you actually have to pay for a child's upkeep to claim them as a dependent... but hey, that's me.

Justin has sole legal custody, they share joint physical custody (that way she would sign the papers). Before that Justin had sole legal and sole physical custody and she was only allowed supervised visitation.... It took a while before we even agreed to let her have overnights again. And clearly the slipperly slope is happening again. Sucks.

She got arrested the day before court due to an outstanding warrant (failure to appear... she had written bad checks in the past and drove without insurance/license... that sorta thing) They had actually requested her family bring her some street clothes because they had picked her up in a white men's "wifebeater" type shirt and pyjama pants. Her family was too sorry to bring her decent clothes, so orange it was. And chains because she had not been bailed out yet.

 

[Tomtommom]

Between her and her brothers there's about two dozen arrest records on file... We had paperwork from the court his uncles are not allowed near him.

Messy business.

Justin had his brake lines slashed at work when we first got custody.. Never did figure out which family member did it. Threats of bodily harm to me and Justin were made by pretty much every one of her family members. CPS was called on me. I received calls with death threats. Her aunt, bio mom and her cussed me out at a school function for the kiddo.

They're a little hot headed and need to get their act straight.

 

[vehve]

Lazy, Töyhtis is a bit of everything. Some Silkie, some Araucana, Some Black Copper Marans, some Finnish Alho landrace, possible a splash of Orpington, and I think there might have been something else in the mix too.

TTMom, I hope you get the legal stuff finished quickly, it's a shame that the kid is being used that way for monetary gain by the mother.

 

[Tomtommom]

Lazy, Töyhtis is a bit of everything. Some Silkie, some Araucana, Some Black Copper Marans, some Finnish Alho landrace, possible a splash of Orpington, and I think there might have been something else in the mix too.

TTMom, I hope you get the legal stuff finished quickly, it's a shame that the kid is being used that way for monetary gain by the mother.

I'm glad he has atleast no idea about any of that stuff

(We certainly never mention it)

 

[vehve]

TTM, yeah, luckily he's young enough to not understand it yet. But if it continues, he might start picking up on it, not nice for a kid.

 

[bruceha2000]

He has permanent custody. Custody is over. Done. That got all signed a few months ago. She actually agreed because it states Justin will pay the marital debts. It's all about money. There's a separate hearing to go over child support... she wants to be able to use him as a tax asset every other year. In my opinion you actually have to pay for a child's upkeep to claim them as a dependent... but hey, that's me.

Justin has sole legal custody, they share joint physical custody (that way she would sign the papers). Before that Justin had sole legal and sole physical custody and she was only allowed supervised visitation.... It took a while before we even agreed to let her have overnights again. And clearly the slipperly slope is happening again. Sucks.

She got arrested the day before court due to an outstanding warrant (failure to appear... she had written bad checks in the past and drove without insurance/license... that sorta thing) They had actually requested her family bring her some street clothes because they had picked her up in a white men's "wifebeater" type shirt and pyjama pants. Her family was too sorry to bring her decent clothes, so orange it was. And chains because she had not been bailed out yet.

Sounds like she would have skipped this last hearing as well if she hadn't been escorted by the "men in blue". If they share joint physical custody there is no reason she should get any child support from Justin. Especially if he has to pay all the joint debts (I bet more than half are on her). Given her "activities" it is likely she will be spending time where the sun don't shine but a few hours a day ... assuming you are on good behavior. Won't be doing much that would cause any monetary expenditures on her son.

 

[Tomtommom]

Sounds like she would have skipped this last hearing as well if she hadn't been escorted by the "men in blue". If they share joint physical custody there is no reason she should get any child support from Justin. Especially if he has to pay all the joint debts (I bet more than half are on her). Given her "activities" it is likely she will be spending time where the sun don't shine but a few hours a day ... assuming you are on good behavior. Won't be doing much that would cause any monetary expenditures on her son.

She's not getting child support, she was supposed to pay Justin (per the original divorce decree, the one she got tossed out because it was totally not her fault that she didn't show up). It said for her to pay $252 a month. The "joint custody" part was put in the papers to appease her, I'm not even sure how exactly it's worded... but she doesn't have much "power" so to speak. She never talks to teachers, doctors or counselors (even though she's welcome to). She only gets him from 9am Saturday until 5pm Sunday. Never participates in school functions, even though I've invited her before.

They're having a hearing soon to look at child support, because that did not get decided yet for the new divorce decree. They got custody and the divorce out of the way, agreeing that the child support hearing would be done later. Later was SUPPOSED to be past September, but that's been the story of the whole thing... every hearing seems to take half a year to be scheduled.

The kiddo has a guardian ad litem to watch out for his best interests. He already had to put his foot down once when she said if she got custody she wouldn't make Justin pay child support. That's not something she can do, as it's not her money, it's the kid's money. It's for HIS support, not hers or ours. Besides, the judge wasn't going to let her have custody anyway, but she's freaking dilusional

She told Justin she would have the court "fix" our taxes and have it that she can claim the kid as her dependent for 2012 or 2013 and make us pay the child credit to her.. He didn't live with her at all... I don't think it quite works like that.



Yesterday she said she's been driving around all day to have power and cable hooked up to her new place.. So I guess they moved again? Who knows, she never gives us the address to wherever she's staying.

She also got the kid a cell phone for Christmas. He's 6. Justin had told her no, but hey, who cares what he says, right? I'm afraid this'll be one of those things that'll lead to tension. I just see it now, all of a sudden all of the family will have that number and the kid will be getting calls at all hours from people he's not supposed to be around.

His grandpa tried to kidnap him once already.

Hoping I'm worried for nothing.

 

[Alice28]

Tomtommom, I feel for yu and the stress this causes your family. Tuesday I testified for a friend and her son against her Extreamly abusive ex husband. He gets an agreement signed, then takes her back to court. He now useing the court system to abuse her. I witnessed him screaming horrible things about my friend to her son, I've witnessed him abusing her... he's horrible. I took three different dates off and court kept being postponed last minute. I closed my business three time! Anyways, finally court happened. It was supposed to be a two day trial.... it was five days! He lied on the stand, but my friend recorded and saved everything! They played 36 messages and drop off recordings (drop offs were all in front of the child). When I testified, I was told that probably only my friends lawyer would ask me anything, but my friend warned me her ex's lawyer has no client control. If the client wants him to ask something he will, even if it makes them look bad. Well her ex was livid when he saw me! He started to scribble on his pad. His lawyer tried to twist every thing I said and testify for me. I saw exactly what was happening. So just sat there super calm and just would say, no that is not what I said... I said (and repeat calmly what I had just said). The lawyer kept saying I was just mad at his client and I just don't like him... Blah blah. He was pretty desperate to get me mad, but it wasn't going to happen and I was expecting it. The judge, thank god, ruled in my friends favor! She said his lawyer at the end tried to discredit me and her other witnesses and the judge said no, he thought we were all great, but that her ex husband was a horrible witness. I have already warned my neighbors that I testified against a very abuive person, so they said they will keep an eye out. It's so stressful when it's your friend, I can't imagine going through it, but atleast your son only has to see her for a bit. It's sad but for the best. My friends kid. It's so horrible. It's so hard to hear a little kid say these horrible things that are just evil and a parent told them.