The Front Porch Swing

[Tomtommom]

Tomtommom, I feel for yu and the stress this causes your family. Tuesday I testified for a friend and her son against her Extreamly abusive ex husband. He gets an agreement signed, then takes her back to court. He now useing the court system to abuse her. I witnessed him screaming horrible things about my friend to her son, I've witnessed him abusing her... he's horrible. I took three different dates off and court kept being postponed last minute. I closed my business three time! Anyways, finally court happened. It was supposed to be a two day trial.... it was five days! He lied on the stand, but my friend recorded and saved everything! They played 36 messages and drop off recordings (drop offs were all in front of the child). When I testified, I was told that probably only my friends lawyer would ask me anything, but my friend warned me her ex's lawyer has no client control. If the client wants him to ask something he will, even if it makes them look bad. Well her ex was livid when he saw me! He started to scribble on his pad. His lawyer tried to twist every thing I said and testify for me. I saw exactly what was happening. So just sat there super calm and just would say, no that is not what I said... I said (and repeat calmly what I had just said). The lawyer kept saying I was just mad at his client and I just don't like him... Blah blah. He was pretty desperate to get me mad, but it wasn't going to happen and I was expecting it. The judge, thank god, ruled in my friends favor! She said his lawyer at the end tried to discredit me and her other witnesses and the judge said no, he thought we were all great, but that her ex husband was a horrible witness. I have already warned my neighbors that I testified against a very abuive person, so they said they will keep an eye out. It's so stressful when it's your friend, I can't imagine going through it, but atleast your son only has to see her for a bit. It's sad but for the best. My friends kid. It's so horrible. It's so hard to hear a little kid say these horrible things that are just evil and a parent told them.

You did amazing! Oh, so many times have I felt my blood bubble in my veins, wanting to yell at her, but I try and keep calm.

Honestly in recent years the stress has dissipated A LOT. It helped that she had another kid with her new husband and he told her family to not come near his kid

Grandpa was threatening to take that boy away too (he has custody of one of his grandchildren and intended to get custody of the others too. These folks aint right) So hooray for new step-dad, he's got a level head and reigns her in a bit too.

Things are pretty calm these days, aside from her blablabla every weekend when she brings him home. She's a habitual liar and it irks me. My ex-husband went to school with her, so I've heard of her shenanigans for YEARS. Lies, lies, lies.. all the time.

She tried to pull all sorts of dirty tricks, but they all failed. That judge isn't stupid.

 

[Alice28]

Well you guys, we're on a little vacation right now. We should be home the 23 or 24. Here is my son and my aunt. He's riding one of my aunts donkeys.

Then here is my son and my niece walking down the street. They are so cute. We played at the park and then took them to ice cream. My niece was super excited. I got them matching shirts for Christmas. You can't tell in the picture. They both put them right on. They were different colors but the same design. I was so glad my niece liked her shirt. Girls can be so hard to buy for.

 

[Tomtommom]

Cute pics!

Sad news over here. Someone close to my husband got murdered yesterday.. for $20. An old co-worker from his Domino's days, out on a delivery. Delivery was a setup for robbery... He's very distraught about the whole thing. Domino's internal charity says they'll take care of the family, so that's a small blessing.. but man... things are rough out there lately. Seems to be getting worse and worse.

http://www.al.com/news/birmingham/i..._pizza_deliverymans_ameri.html#incart_m-rpt-2

 

[perchie.girl]

Cute pics!

Sad news over here. Someone close to my husband got murdered yesterday.. for $20. An old co-worker from his Domino's days, out on a delivery. Delivery was a setup for robbery... He's very distraught about the whole thing. Domino's internal charity says they'll take care of the family, so that's a small blessing.. but man... things are rough out there lately. Seems to be getting worse and worse.

http://www.al.com/news/birmingham/i..._pizza_deliverymans_ameri.html#incart_m-rpt-2

Oh my Gawd NO.... Give your hubby a hug from me...

sooo devistating.... I have heard Dominos is a great company .... but what a Christmas .... Makes me really want to go home and pull the blinds and stop answering my door.

deb

 

[Blooie]

I am so sorry to hear this, TT. Please know he's in my thoughts. I just don't understand.

 

[Tomtommom]

Oh my Gawd NO.... Give your hubby a hug from me...

sooo devistating.... I have heard Dominos is a great company .... but what a Christmas .... Makes me really want to go home and pull the blinds and stop answering my door.

deb

I often feel the same way. The world is a mess.

 

[Alice28]

Tomtommom, I'm so sorry for you and your husband. While I was on shift with a coworker we were supposed to meet up with the children in our care. He never showed up. He was murdered in front of the child that was in his care. A guy tried to rob him when he stopped at the store on his way to meet us. He had two young boys and a wife he left behind. I don't understand the world we live in sometimes. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts.

 

[Tomtommom]

Tomtommom, I'm so sorry for you and your husband. While I was on shift with a coworker we were supposed to meet up with the children in our care. He never showed up. He was murdered in front of the child that was in his care. A guy tried to rob him when he stopped at the store on his way to meet us. He had two young boys and a wife he left behind. I don't understand the world we live in sometimes. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts.

That's awful.

I never met his co-worker, but he told me so many stories about him over the years, it's like I knew him. Just one of those people that sticks with you.

As I told my husband, atleast he lived a full life. 63 isn't terribly old, but still. Perhaps some good has come from it, perhaps the driver before or after him who could've had that delivery if he was just a bit slower would've been someone young with little kids. Atleast his kids were college age. As I reminded him, from his stories, this man would've given his life to save another.

 

[vehve]

TTmom, my condolences. It's always sad when someone is taken from us abruptly.

 

[Tomtommom]

I am utterly amazed at the outpouring of support for this family. Warms my heart.

The memorial fund his daughter set up, to take care of the funeral and his disabled wife has already $63,000 donated to it in about 24 hours! Customers, friends, family, people who read the news.... all leaving messages and donations for his children and wife.

There's a candle light vigil on Christmas. His funeral is Friday.

Justin told me last night how the man's wife became disabled after a car accident, and he did not want a lawsuit, because it would just be the insurance paying.. not the person who hurt her. He didn't think that was right.

I asked him what he would think about all this money pouring in for his family, and Justin said he would probably have cried.