The Front Porch Swing

[perchie.girl]

Quote: Thank s Bee.... I have several threads I follow here Plus one group of dear Efriends I have collected during conversations over horses... Scattered all over the country. I will never meet a single one of them though.

It will all change some when I dont have to be here with Grandma most of the time. I am making an effort. To meet people... The San Diego BYC meetup group is coming up next weekend. It will get me out without family in tow....

deb

 

[perchie.girl]

Hi from Vermont! I'd love to pull up a seat on the porch if there's still room

I've got some hot cider with/without rum to warm us up with yet another "polar vortex" creeping in.
I am dreaming of warm sunny days......
I've been reading the posts, figured I'd jump ahead and ask to join and go back and read some more.
Hope to make some new friends and continue to learn from all of you.
Thanks

Hey there Hi there Gldnrose.... Welcome to BYC from San Diego High desert....

cuz I didnt get to welcome you when you first signed up.....LOL.

So.... any good recipes for Pot Roast?

deb

 

[Windy Bay Farm]

Hi from Vermont! I'd love to pull up a seat on the porch if there's still room
I've got some hot cider with/without rum to warm us up with yet another "polar vortex" creeping in.
I am dreaming of warm sunny days......
I've been reading the posts, figured I'd jump ahead and ask to join and go back and read some more.
Hope to make some new friends and continue to learn from all of you.
Thanks

Hi there, Gldnrose ! Welcome to the porch... Pull up a seat and stay for awhile !

And

 

[LeslieDJoyce]

or left the car unlocked with the keys in the ignition....  It all doesnt matter.  I was distracted and made grievous errors.  The police even asked if I had any friends that might try to Punk me....  scuse me?

I just about sobbed when i told them I had no friends.  I am 59 My last job let me go.... The friends I knew were there.  I rarely socialize outside of work.  The only "peeple" I have are My Son, My Mom, and My Grandma.

deb

I think the "no friends" thing is getting more common. Move, get sick, change jobs, kids graduate, break up ... each of those things wipes out an entire social structure. It's even harder on people who don't like to go out drinking.

 

[Gldnrose]

Thanks for the warm welcome Perchie.girl and Windy Bay Farm.

I wish I could help with the pot roast recipe. For some reason we don't eat that very often

My husband pretty much does all the cooking. He wasn't too impressed with my hockey puck pork chops I made him when we first started dating way back when, lol. He ate them, but years later loves to tell the story of "how he knew he'd be doing the cooking when he had to saw through the chops". But he loves to cook, so its a good match.
My Mom used to make a killer pot roast, but I never paid any attention while growing up.

 

[lindz8504]

I think the "no friends" thing is getting more common. Move, get sick, change jobs, kids graduate, break up ... each of those things wipes out an entire social structure. It's even harder on people who don't like to go out drinking.

Exactly! Life happens and things change! In my case I think my kids overwhelm people. They are great kids, and very well mannered, but with 4 of them age 7 and under things can get chaotic very quickly! Even our family doesn't come around very often, so most of the time it is just us. I wasn't ever a big social person anyway, but I am becoming quite the homebody!

 

[lovingmyhens]

I think the "no friends" thing is getting more common. Move, get sick, change jobs, kids graduate, break up ... each of those things wipes out an entire social structure. It's even harder on people who don't like to go out drinking.

I know that my problem is that, well several things...one I'm too tired when I get home from school...two I have a hard time making the concerted effort it takes to keep friendships going when they (or I ) move jobs and/or places of residence. I've been on my own for ten years and most of the people I know from church are all married and the people I teach with I've only known for 1 1/2yrs. Not really long enough to establish life long friendships.
My mom told me last night that her college roommate had passed away. My mom is 73. I don't even remember the names of my college roommates much less know where they are.

I admire people with friends from way back when. It's hard! I had a dear friend who I went out with when I got divorced but after a couple of years I realized she had some serious issues and she was bringing me down with her. I had to slowly extricate myself from that friendship. Since then I just kinda keep to myself-avoid hurt and complications.
My life is ok!! My older girls are grown and love me but they have their own lives! My 8 yr old is such fun and keeps me young!

It's hard-this life and I must say that I am so very thankful that this is not my home! Waiting patiently for Jesus to call me forever home!

 

[Beekissed]

Hi from Vermont! I'd love to pull up a seat on the porch if there's still room

I've got some hot cider with/without rum to warm us up with yet another "polar vortex" creeping in.
I am dreaming of warm sunny days......
I've been reading the posts, figured I'd jump ahead and ask to join and go back and read some more.
Hope to make some new friends and continue to learn from all of you.
Thanks

Hey, Gldnrose!!

Vermont, checkin in!!!

So glad to have you here and help yourself to the "goodies" everyone else has brought.

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You are so right! I have moved so many times in my life..can't even begin to count those, changed jobs over 40 times...lost track after that, lost everything I had in common with anyone the older I got and now I can hear an echo when I speak. But it's more than that, really...my kids went all the way through school and never had a best friend. How does that even happen? I guess now it's how many "friends" one can have on FB and not so much about establishing one or two really good friends that you take with you down through the years.

Exactly! Life happens and things change! In my case I think my kids overwhelm people. They are great kids, and very well mannered, but with 4 of them age 7 and under things can get chaotic very quickly! Even our family doesn't come around very often, so most of the time it is just us. I wasn't ever a big social person anyway, but I am becoming quite the homebody!

Are your peers having families yet? Such was the case for me...I started my family early and not many of my friends did, then when mine were teenagers, they started having little ones. Totally out of sync and nothing left in common after that.

 

[Gldnrose]

I think the "no friends" thing is getting more common. Move, get sick, change jobs, kids graduate, break up ... each of those things wipes out an entire social structure. It's even harder on people who don't like to go out drinking.

I agree. I only have a couple of good friends and that's it. And I'm ok with that. Less drama! My husband and I both just want the simple life, as stress free as possible. We do our jobs and then relax at home on our days off. We keep busy doing our "home stuff", he brews his own beer and wine and he tells me this summer that we are going to be doing a TON of canning, that should be an adventure in itself as neither one of us have ever done it. We just wish we had more land to have more animals. Someday.....

 

[Beekissed]

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Exactly that. So many toxic relationships out there and soon you have to shed those things and people from your life because soon you realize they only call when they need you to listen to them complain and that goes on for years without them ever making positive moves to improve the situation, never taking any advice that they continually ask you for, and you are nothing more than a leach bed for their toxic life....they really care nothing about your life, only what you can do for them.

I have no problem being a shoulder to cry upon, but my shoulders were getting wrinkly from being water logged and I realized that only went one way...no one wanted to be my shoulder in return. I grew tired of one sided relationships and started to pare those down...until there were none. Took me 43 years to figure that one out and start cutting out the dead wood.