The Front Porch Swing

[lovingmyhens]

And sometimes a person isn't supposed to have anyone at all.  I really feel like that is the case with me now in my life.  I had a husband once and I had a few relationships but now I can't even wrap my mind around co-existing with a man any longer.  I just feel like that's not something meant for me any longer and I'm pretty content with that thought.  Back when life was tough and raising three boys by myself was so hard, I could have used help and a companion, but now I just don't need one anymore. 

The thought just never crosses my mind anymore, thank the good Lord!  It used to cross it far too often and I worried all the time because I was lonely and felt like life was not complete unless you had someone to love you...then I realized I had Someone all along and He loves me better than anyone ever could or has.  Now I just don't need that other kind of love and that's a relief for me. 

I think my expectations are too high! And I've been single for now on 11 yrs and I just done think I can do it again. At 51 I'm pretty comfortable in my singleness. If I can't fix something I can always find someone who needs to make a little extra $. Or it just doesn't get done.
The men I've had the pleasure of knowing are either already married, gay, or just want someone to take care of them. This really isn't what I had envisioned when I was a teenager with stars in my eyes, but it's the path God has put me on. Besides I've got an 8 yr old I've raised since she was a baby and most men my age aren't willing to take that on.

 

[lovingmyhens]

You know people these days say the past was sooo different from now...  What people dont realize is stuff that goes on now has always been going on just no one talked about it back then.... LOL.

My grandma was born in 1916....  Her oldest brother was already in the military during WWI.  Her oldest sister was born in 1899.  Grandma Robins (my great grandma) married her husband when she was 14.  Grandpa was a widower whos late wife was his cousin....(she committed suicide).  They had two children ages 10 and 12.  Grandma Robins played dolls with her step daughter. When the boy reached twelve Grandma Robbins woke up with him hovering over her with a butcher knife.  Grandpa Robins ran him off and eventually he was committed to an insane asylum...  The daughter went on to have a family of her own.

Grandma Robbins was a beautiful human being.  She had at least 12 or 13 pregnancys and raised up 9 children.  She became the midwife of the county they lived in.  She probably had a third grade education their only book in the house was the bible.  Grandpa Doted on her....  he had an aweful temper sometimes beating his mules till they went down on their knees.  But all she had to do was tell him to stop gently and he would.  When she went off to deliver babies all the kids kind of found other things to do.... rather than get into trouble.

They never had a car till they moved to California... But Grandpa Robins never learned to drive, neither did Grandma Robins...  Oh he got the steering pretty good but that whole stopping thing stumped him...  He would holler Woah...  So when he went to work in the oil fields He had to have someone drive him to work.  So MY Grandma was the designated driver.  Only problem was she was only twelve years old.  So in 1928 Grandma got her first drivers licence and drove him to work every morning before school then went and got him when his shift was over. 

Funny thing was in the beginning they lived in Oklahoma and Grandma Robbins was heir to a family that owned a HUGE marble qarry.  Once she married over objections of many of her family they disowned her.  I have only gleaned that tidbit from listening Grandma talk to her Grand nieces....  

Long life comes in this family.  My Grandma got a phone call from  Sacramento a couple of years ago.  The call lasted about half an hour and when she hung up  I asked her who it was...  When she said it was her nephew...Charlie i believe.... I said I didint know she had a nepheew.  This was the son of her older brother who was in the military when she was born.  I said OMG how old is your nephew....  She grinned.... Hes 90  So that would make him now about 92 hes five years younger than My Grandma.

Whew I wrote a book.  Moms been doing geneology so shes been gathering info since I was in highschool.

deb

I love it deb!! I wish I knew stuff like that about my family!!

 

[lovingmyhens]

My neighbors love me!  Years of bribing them with cups of sugar, home-cooked meals and dog/house-sitting services has given me loads of leeway with them when it comes to the chickens.  Nowadays, if I really don't want them mad at me for bringing home new birds, I take over small baskets of eggs and herbs.  Nothing says neighborly love like the ingredients for a quiche! 

  I'm with you there!  Man, if I had the heart to raise turkeys again, I'd do it in a beat.  Last year, when my turkeys died (weakened immune systems from avian pox and bad weather did them in), I was devastated.  I don't think I could do it again so soon.  The expense was hefty, too, so I'm not so sure.  I'll have more income coming in this year, but I need to save some money up (and pay off student loans). 

I loved my turkeys, though!  Tom and Jenny were so sweet and loved to hop up on my leg to eat.  I might raise turkeys in a few years, but for now, I need to focus on the chickens and my new guineas. 

Good to hear from you again! Missed ya. Come back when you've got time and sit a spell. I hope things all go smoothly while you are on your own at work.

 

[lovingmyhens]

Weren't there some gentlemen who joined us a ways back?? Maybe we scared them??!!

 

[enola]

Welcome! Here on the front porch of miss bee you will find the friendliest, sweet, most caring people in the world!!
Anyone for some warm Rice Krispie treats??

I have my cup of coffee and I'd love a Rice Crispie Treat or two, thank you! Never too early for a goodie in my world........

 

[WindStep]

Good morin good mornin!

 

[enola]

Addressing the men in our lives..... Most of the single ladies on this site are smart, independent ladies who are not afraid to take care of themselves. If you have a problem you face and figure out/overcome it or pay someone to do it for you.

A woman that thinks on that level is a scarey thing to the average man.

I thank God for Mike every single day. He is amazed at the number of things I can do/make/devise to fix problems in day to day problems on the home front.

 

[Triple Willow]

Addressing the men in our lives..... Most of the single ladies on this site are smart, independent ladies who are not afraid to take care of themselves. If you have a problem you face and figure out/overcome it or pay someone to do it for you.

A woman that thinks on that level is a scarey thing to the average man.

I thank God for Mike every single day. He is amazed at the number of things I can do/make/devise to fix problems in day to day problems on the home front.

I was single for a long long time. I just could not find the man that fit into my life or me into his. And you are so right about some women scaring men. Some of us intimidate the heck out of them. I don't really understand why, but we do. I finally gave the man search up and laid that issue on God then He brought the one into my life that fit. We are still a work in progress, individually and together. (I don't think I could live long enough to get to where I need to be as a person!) But I do thank God for him, I could never thank Him enough.

 

[TexasLisa]

Hey everyone

Hi Becky!! WELCOME to the Front Porch Swing. I put a couple of hay bales on the porch. I heard we have a bunch of folks coming to visit! Please tell us what you have perched on your shoulder. Interesting!

Ibejaran, I have been thinking about you wondering how the job was going. Good luck and take it one step at a time!

Lisa

 

[enola]

Oh! Oh! Somebody save me a seat on a hay bale I am off work today and will be popping in and out in between chores.