Linda, I'm afraid I'm not as nice as you are. I'd have lost my temper sure as I'm sitting here and reminded her that when she was acting "selfish" - most of her childhood and into early adulthood if she's like most kids - you were the one taking care of her, her siblings, the house, and trying to sneak in a little time for your own interests. I'd probably have said, "I'm not being selfish - I'm just making up for lost time." But I do admire the way you gritted your teeth and handled it.