The Gen Z Thread

[Cecisflock]

Well I asked you why you thought you were aromantic and you answered gay. I've had gay friends, even lived for a while in college with a gay couple; I know and recognize people who've become bitter because they've been mistreated and I also know people who've gone through all their life without meeting the "right person", never saw that it meant that they don't wish they could find someone to have a romantic relationship with, they just hadn't found someone that generated that in them. I insist, I hate labels, they try and make everyone think that something is either wrong with them or they are a few of a small group that's alone and no one can really understand them.

I met a really nice/sweet guy in college that wanted to have a relationship with me, never felt romantic or attracted to him; actually met many guys and it was the same thing, never thought I might have a condition, just knew they weren't the right guy.

They said GREY it's very different...

 

[Eden83_haaretz]

Thats why people who are like that are different. They don't have that drive to BE with somebody. Everybody is different, we all have diffrences. So yes, it makes total sense that a group of people just don't have that desire to be with somebody.

Nobody suffered from depression, because up until the past 5 years, the word depression, or mental illness, was sheltered, ignored. "more" people suffer these days not because we're weak, its because back then, people who suffered, didn't reach out.

"in general life has become easier".. yes, but we don't crumble at the littliest problems. People with depression, or mental illness are chemically unbalanced. My goodness, I'd LOVE to not "crumble at the littliest of problems".. but thats how my brain was wired. Sorry

They said GREY it's very different...

Sorry I missread then

 

[Cecisflock]

Well I asked you why you thought you were aromantic and you answered gay.

They said GREY it's very different...

GREY aro/ace means-
orientation on the aroace spectrum which describes those who relate with asexuality and aromanticism, yet feel that there are parts of their experience that aren't fully described by the word aroace. Greyaroace can be used as a specific identity, or as an umbrella term for any aroace-spec identity that isn't purely aroace, including demiaroace and others.

A common reason someone may identify as greyaroace is that they experience attraction but very infrequently. Some greyraroace people may only feel attraction once or twice in their life. Others may experience it more frequently, but still not as frequently as allo people.

 

[Eden83_haaretz]

GREY aro/ace means-
orientation on the aroace spectrum which describes those who relate with asexuality and aromanticism, yet feel that there are parts of their experience that aren't fully described by the word aroace. Greyaroace can be used as a specific identity, or as an umbrella term for any aroace-spec identity that isn't purely aroace, including demiaroace and others.

A common reason someone may identify as greyaroace is that they experience attraction but very infrequently. Some greyraroace people may only feel attraction once or twice in their life. Others may experience it more frequently, but still not as frequently as allo people.

Ok, thanks for the explanation, then if I wanted to label myself I'd fall into that category. But I've already elaborated in another post much of what I think about labeling.

 

[Cecisflock]

Ok, thanks for the explanation, then if I wanted to label myself I'd fall into that category. But I've already elaborated in another post much of what I think about labeling.

I'm just going to say that there is NOTHING wrong with labels, they are like magnets, easy to remove! just for anyone out there

 

[chickentrains]

I'm just going to say that there is NOTHING wrong with labels, they are like magnets, easy to remove! just for anyone out there

yep,

some people don't even label themselves

 

[Cecisflock]

yep,

some people don't even label themselves

Right! you can still have a fridge with no magnets! totally fine, still a fridge!

 

[chickentrains]

Right! you can still have a fridge with no magnets! totally fine, still a fridge!

my fridge is so lame

 

[TamingMaster]

Well you tell me why you're not attracted to people. I would term that anatural because sex drive and not diying alone is what drives any common human being into seeking a relationship. But your reasons maybe something personal, underlying, something to do with your childhood or how you've been treated; in every "label" there are exceptions to the rule.
Which is why I think labeling is wrong, my grandmother used to say that when she was young (we're talking about 1920-30) no one suffered from depression because no one had invented the term so no one really mulled over if they were depressed or not, maybe you got sad and then you brushed it off and continued life. These new generations (and I include mine) have had been so sheltered, have been through little hardship (not like in the past, my great grandmother went through the Mexican Revolution, she lived in Mexico City and said people dropped down dead in the streets because of hunger; both my great grandmother and grandmother had their husband's abandon them because they had another wife; my grandmother studied and graduated from biological pharmaceutical chemistry and worked several jobs to raise 4 kids), that we crumble at the littlest of problems. Not saying that there aren't people that still go through real hardship, but in general life has become easier.

You might not understand different sexualities, but please don't dismiss them.

And please don't dismiss mental health like that.
Many people suffered from depression, but there wasn't an official name for the diagnosis or equipment to understand it, back then, so it was ignored.
People were just put in psychiatric hospitals and given electroshock therapy, or told they were being irrational- or even that they were possessed, in some instances.
Our technology, connecting and understanding, has come a very long way since then. Our medicines and doctors have also come a long way since then. Please don't dismiss that.

 

[chickentrains]

You might not understand different sexualities, but please don't dismiss them.

And please don't dismiss mental health like that.
Many people suffered from depression, but there wasn't an official name for the diagnosis or equipment to understand it, back then, so it was ignored.
People were just put in psychiatric hospitals and given electroshock therapy, or told they were being irrational- or even that they were possessed, in some instances.
Our technology, connecting and understanding, has come a very long way since then. Our medicines and doctors have also come a long way since then. Please don't dismiss that.