Why is it some people have no concept of why things are done a certain way. The repairs on our house are almost complete. I talked to my wife about what was going to be done on the front porch. She was there when I discussed with the contractor what size everything would be, how the rail would be made. It's complete, looks really good. She hates it!!!! I don't & never will understand. Ladies, how does your brain work ? Why can't men & women speak the same language? Is there a common ground we can meet on? Aaaaagggggghhhhhh!!!!!! I'm so confused !!!
Please don't confuse this as an attack on the way women think. It's mearly the random rambleings of a tired husband , I just needed to vent thank you.
Well, hmmmm. That is a very complicated question. Women and men do tend to think differently as society has categorized them to do. However, I think it's more a matter of individuality. In our household, with over 10 years under our belts, we pretty much handle things without too much strife. He works (truck driver) and is a typical Type B personality (though I don't believe in categories or labels), very laid back, very much the "tell me what to do and I'll do it". Me, I'm the organizer. Type A and proud of it with some other interesting spices thrown in for chuckles and giggles. It works for us because I pretty much handle things and he just does what he does, which is drive a truck. I fix cars, I build things, I go to school (physics, and I'm 49), I raise the kidlet, I do the budget... ad nauseum. I also used to drive truck. When he's home, he helps with the "heavy" stuff and we accept each other for what we are, not what we expect the other to be. He lets me deal with such things as contractors and such and stays out of the way, like a good boy. I also tend to speak my mind and am very straight forward - I hate mind games and guessing. I hate drama. Maybe I wasn't meant to be a woman, I dunno. I've been married before to spouses who were, in my opinion, three sigma west of strange in some of this kind of thinking.
So, I really don't know how to answer your question. I see things as a scientist, as a physicist, and as a capable crafter (wood, wire, whathaveyou). Ask her why she hates it and what didn't she understand in the planning? Was it not what she thought it would be? Maybe next time ask her if she understands what the outcome will be fully before implementation.
And, sometimes we all just need to vent. I do, frequently.
