Yep. Entitlement, expectation of forever support. Mom and dad have always taken care of me, it is their "job".
You have some money, seems like a lot to you. But spend an hour to work out a monthly budget including rent and utilities (assume at least 1 roommate to share expenses). Add food, car insurance, registration, gas, renter's insurance, pet expenses ....... I think you will be amazed at what it costs to live even if you choose a less expensive area than where you live now. Then figure your car won't last forever so you want to add car "payments" into your budget even if that means saving that much each month so you don't have a big "must pay" car payment when you do need to replace it. Then figure financial planners figure you should have at least 3 months, 6 is better, of monthly expenses saved in case of a job loss or other emergency.
I'm not picking on you, you just happen to be voicing what is not uncommon and doing it in a forum mostly full of old fogies who flew the nest decades ago and have seen their own children grow up. My kids aren't a whole lot different than you. I'm sure DD2 would find a job if she had to pay for everything. Maybe not her ideal job, but something. Yes we are enablers. But she had her ear operation last Tuesday and soon will have no excuse excuse for not finding something. She doesn't spend much money, tight fisted that one ... which isn't a bad thing. She talks about wanting to move out on her own but there isn't any pressure to do so.
Work on that self control, you REALLY don't want to learn "the hard way" by being tossed out of the nest and told to fly. That works for the barn swallows but their lives are a bit less complicated. Find food, eat food, find a place to sleep each night, try not to get eaten.
