already use small plates ddsharronsorry you have so much on your plate to deal with. Maybe "smaller" plates would be better.
My father had dementia and did some really dangerous things but,the worse he got the quieter and more gentle he was. Before he went into a nursing home, he forgot who I was but, was very sweet to me. He had hated me most of his life. He thought my brother was HIS brother and my son as well. He didn't remember mom or being married. She had died several years before him so at least it didn't hurt her feelings.
He was a handful in the nursing home- visiting other patient's rooms and taking anything that caught his eye. When the patients were given a cookie, he had mega tantrums
because he wanted more.
He fell a lot so he ended up in a wheelchair, no help there. He was not supposed to try and get up without a nurse. You can imagine how well that went over. Then he had many more seizures than he did when he was home. I could go on and on but, the phone was always ringing to announce he fell again or was in the hospital with pneumonia
again.
At least twice the calls were to say he was very ill and should get last rites, etc. Then he would miraculously be well, or repeat the saga. It didn't stop until IT Stopped. Was quite a shock to us because we thought he would bounce back again. He was 90.
It took me a full year till I felt safe undoing some very dangerous wiring, etc. he had done at home. GOt rid of all his chemical things that he would dabble with. His bedroom has been kept the same. I can say I had nightmares for a long time about his coming "back" to kill me. But, "we don't need to go there ".
i don't have to deal with much anymore since i put her into the home, its just guilt , the person shes become just isn't my sister and that makes it harder for me to want to go visit, but i do you had it much, much harder , my daddy always loved me and altho i didn't realize it at the time, he spoiled me, daddy never whipped me and believe me, he had the temper to do so but i was his baby, my oldest sister was 23 years older than me and the oldest brother 19 years older, shirley is 13 yrs older and next brother is 9 years older, maybe thats why i was his baby plus he quit drinking when i was about 8 , shirley was terrified of him
. I will let him try for a bit, but not too long. He looks at me so sad at times when he just can't get the right words out. Often times, very often, he now substitutes words..wrong words, but like I said, I figure it out.. pretty often. He had a mini stroke, not sure when...they just saw that he'd had a stroke on a MRI. ....Took my sister out to shop for clothes today. New wardrobe. She's lost sooo much weight since she got real sick. Oh, I don't have to worry about cost in the homes. She has good ins. Whew! ....You were talking about Keto . I think I mentioned, I've been doing it since last August. I am down! Maybe you can share some recipes. I am missing bread pretty bad.
.Thank you. 
The yard is finally getting decent.
he was adorable!! But the new dog is cute too!! He sounds like an awesome dog though besides the terribly rough play. I used to think I wanted one and still would eventually, especially after watching those freestyle videos and a bunch of trick videos I’ve seen (Nana the Border Collie is amazing, they’re on YouTube), but they are just soooo much work and I know that training doesn’t happen over night, it takes a while, and even once trained, they still need MORE training, cause they need that daily stimulation and work and everything, using their minds and I’m not sure I want a dog that NEEDS that. Same reason I won’t get a Malinois. I want a dog that can do some stuff like that but not that needs to or they’ll go crazy, you know? I want a dog that can hike/go on off leash adventures, possibly bike, possibly kayak, bikejor or skijor, train/do tricks, etc. and I’m thinking I want to do agility or nosework too. Would be nice to have a dog that can do that but doesn’t have to/doesn’t go crazy if I miss a day or something and that also has an off switch in the house and can just chill and sleep or lay on the couch with me or on the floor or whatever. Knows how to settle. Although I guess most dogs can be trained to do that. But I just hate when dogs constantly pace and can’t just chill lol and also it’d be nice if the dog was interested in me/in tune to my emotions. There’s obviously lots of breeds that fit that bill but I’m looking into Aussies (Australian Shepherds), Goldens, or Samoyeds. Or possibly English Shepherd or Scotch Collie/OTFC. Something preferably a little more mellow than a BC but still smart lol
But if not, there are some breeders near me I am looking into too and I have one in particular in mind. But I’m sure most Golden’s would work. I have known several and every one I have known has been lovely. Super smart, obedient, sweet. Most are even super loving with me and want to be petted and stay with me even if I’m a stranger to them lol although I should say ALMOST every Golden has been lovely. There are two in my brother’s neighborhood that are downright terrors. Friendly to people but dog aggressive. They attacked a dog once, freak out barking when any dog walks by their yard or they see a dog on a walk, and they freak out when they drive by dogs too. But from what I hear that is pretty rare and not very common with Goldens. And in fact, should be discouraged.
