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[perchie.girl]

@perchie.girl

Oh deb!!!!!


That is well.. g I am not helpful in any way, and have zero good advice, but I do have a couple things to say:

1. AWESOME that you stood firm and made it clear that you wanted no renters

2. If you do end up seeing her play up that a. The house is an about to explode death trap b. The neighbor is constantly over there checking up on everthing c. You go there "like all the time" because that woman sounds like slime.

I am tired of justifying my choices with people who really dont care. I made my case when I talked to her on the phone. If I see her the convo will be about Goats.... she has gotten into Oberhashi and Nigerian Dwarfs two herds about fifteen each. Or canning or her house...

When she bought her house it was a little three bed ranch about 1200 sf. on five acres of land. she heard through talking to his neighbors that the fellow that owned his house was a recent widower and he had been looking at mobile homes on the golf course. She walks up to his front door knocks and asks if he was interested in selling his house.... Long story short she stole it.... Five acres of land with barns and out buildings a decent house for 300k. The guy was happy his son was furious.... the deal went through though.

then she started building.... Trippling the house size starting out with the idea of making it a duplex... I never got to see it finished because I moved my horse to a different facility. essentially winding up with a million dollar property in old horse properties granfathered in within the city. The idea was to provide her mom a home of her own then later rent it out. Right now her Daugher and son in law are living there.

I would like to see it finished... but it really doesnt matter to me any more. All my friends from that era are still around but I have no contact with them. I really need to make some new face to face friends.

Not that I dont love the people I have met on line had talk to on a daily basis... But there is more, out there...

deb

 

[Alaskan]

Weren't you trying to go to that writers group? Did that just fizzle?


I actually found a "thing" to attend once a week, for the last month. It was great fun, but this week was the last meeting. Everyone is starting the madness of summer, and so want to stop meeting.

I too have great troubles making actual friends.

 

[perchie.girl]

Weren't you trying to go to that writers group? Did that just fizzle?


I actually found a "thing" to attend once a week, for the last month. It was great fun, but this week was the last meeting.

Everyone is starting the madness of summer, and so want to stop meeting.

I too have great troubles making actual friends.

When i started NanoWrimo the writers group fell apart. they were due to have a new leader and no one stepped up.

I am going to Weight Watchers and am making some casual friends.... but no real connections.

I guess I need to keep trying. I just am soo out of practice....

deb

 

[Alaskan]

Yep, yep, yep to all of that. And good luck!

 

[drumstick diva]

Count me in too! Once a month the senior bus takes us to a shopping mall. Only two seats were open, one next to a stranger and one next to a barnacle I've known for almost 9 years. I picked the stranger. I had seen her before , Barnacle usually sits with her but, never introduces anyone. Stranger and I hit it off right away. Barnacle didn't like that.
When we were getting off the bus, she made some remark about " me being mad because I wouldn't sit with her." I said "I like to spread myself around."

I can tell you some of the older ladies act like high school. They want you to dislike the people they don't like and so on. Makes me happy to me alone a lot of times. I seem to attract very controlling, pitas but, I decided I don't have to play their game. Boy does that tick them off. I still wish I had some "good company," to hang out with but, can't find any.

 

[superchemicalgirl]

I really need to just call and make some sort excuse....

deb

diarrhea. They can't call you out on it.

I too have great troubles making actual friends.

I think we all do. And it took a while but I'm over it. I prefer my own company to (most) others and I prefer my house to the great unknown "out" that people refer and go to. I am lucky to have a very small smattering of people who I love (and who, for some reason, love me). One of them I met on here. I feel like I've known her all my life. And she enjoys texting at 5 am. I can't ask for much more.

Diva, this thread is all the "good company" we need.

...and I laughed reading "barnacle."

 

[dsqard]

I do enjoy texting at your 5am because I am having my first cup of coffee and trying to psych myself up to get on the treadmill. Deb I say go over to your friends house with no expectations except having a nice lunch. Bring a small dessert you can have and see if you two connect again. If not then see if you can find a group of people doing something you like to do. Start a coffee group or something. Mostly make time for yourself to go out and meet people. Are there people in your weight watchers group you could do stuff with?

 

[chickadoodles]

I do enjoy texting at your 5am because I am having my first cup of coffee and trying to psych myself up to get on the treadmill. Deb I say go over to your friends house with no expectations except having a nice lunch. Bring a small dessert you can have and see if you two connect again. If not then see if you can find a group of people doing something you like to do. Start a coffee group or something. Mostly make time for yourself to go out and meet people. Are there people in your weight watchers group you could do stuff with?

Those are great ideas. Deb a old friend of mine had a great weight watchers group they would all save up and go on cruise's together a couple times a year.

Book clubs are also great, there are ton's of them online. My daughter proof reads and edit's for several writer's that publish online through site's like Amazon's ebook's.

 

[chickadoodles]

Getaclue I will try some moth balls. Thanks.

Good luck on your hatch and so sorry your dh took your eggs.

 

[Bdaychicks15]

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