The Old Folks Home

[perchie.girl]

So, Perchie.Girl, you are a caregiver for your Grandma then. Bless you is all I can say. I lived with my parents until I was 51. Health problems for me at first then it was their health problems/aging that kept tuned me into their care giver. Things went full circle. Both had dementia-long sad story but I know what you are going through first handed. I was their caregiver for almost 20 years.

People would ask me for advice concernign caring for their own aged family members and I would tell them that it was the most rewarding thing they could do next to raising their own children but like raising children it was the most demanding and sometimes heart breaking endeavor they would ever undertake.

Penny1960 what a treat idea! You are close at hand yet have your own place.

Deb, just an idea but how about using plastic totes to help you organize things in your room. Consider a sit down with Grammy with another family member and petition her for things you need if she wants you to stay with her that will make both of your lives easier.

Wish I could give you a hug

Take care of the caregiver. If you get hurt you are both in trouble.

Talking for me doesnt work. dont get me wrong I love my grandma but she is very very hard to please.

Shes 100 years old this year.... born in 1916.... and was an efficiency expert for the government... did time studies on production lines. She was the one with the stop watch and a clip board in the old photos. Right now she has very mild memory loss. and it INFURIATES her. That is expressed in mild sarcasm and words of frustration. Anger is not shown in this house hold. or very rarely.... it shows itself in how she addresses me and my mom ... Deb. That started about two years ago. But she knows who we are. Sometimes she cant remember the words she needs to describe something.... Its like having a conversation with a three year old. but we muddle through.

She still takes her own shower and makes her bed every morning. I prefer that she doesnt do things in the kitchen except get Ice for her water. Its been a natural progression. but I still feel this is her house and I am little more than a guest. Though there are areas that I have claimed. Kitchen and dining room mainly. I dont go into The living room or her bedroom unless I am needed for something. meaning I dont spend time in there.

What I really need is to haul some of my accumulation home and store it properly. But right now my son is in college and we cant both leave her for more than two hours at a time.

I may get a storage shed.... I cant afford long term storage at a facility.

we will see.

deb

 

[Wisher1000]

Welcome, to all the guests and new members of the thread! Make yourselves at home. I think I have missed several newcomers and I apologize for not greeting you properly. I am sure the other residents of "The Old Folks' Home" took care of it, they always do!

Work is trying to kill me. This month is crazy and I have worked lots of evenings and weekends. I think my co-workers have gone crazy, as well. Four times in the last three weeks I have been blamed for things that I didn't do. My direct supervisor thought it was my fault on the first one, but I had an email that proved I did what I was supposed to do. The second time, I was blamed for something my supervisor did (that was not as bad as it was alleged.) The other two times were just stupid cases of people running their mouths about things they had nothing to do with and didn't know what they were talking about. My supervisor finally said "I'm sick of everything being _'Wisher's'_ fault around here! People need to mind their own business." I have no idea what the problem is, but retirement is looking better and better. In addition, I was given a job offer last week that seems like the perfect retirement job for me.

It's mostly driving (vehicle and gas provided,) no heavy lifting, three days a week, flexible days, flexible hours, $300 a week (cash.) I crunched the numbers and it turns out that I need to stay at my current job another 21 months to get the maximum retirement check (for the rest of my life.) Retiring now would mean I would lose $300 a month on my retirement, and about $4000 in bonuses. SOOOOO, my oldest son took the job and will work it as long as he is in school, which should be another year and a half! Depending on what is happening then, another option is for me to start collecting DROP (in 21 months) money and let the next son take it until I am ready to leave for good.

It's nice to have options.

I have only scanned over posts and hope I didn't miss too much. I wish (there I go again) everyone health and healing, peace and happiness, and of course lots of chicken time!

 

[aquafarmerri]

 

[pennyJo1960]

@aquafarmerri Welcome to the Old folks home here nothing to be scared of
sit back have a cup of coffee and jump in

 

[chickadoodles]

Welcome aquafarmerria.

 

[pennyJo1960]

Welcome aquafarmerria.

How are you this morning ?

 

[Cynthia12]

@Cynthia12 is called a havahart or keep a hand?

It's called...Humane.

Only ten bucks. But, having said humane, the only humane way would be to let it go .. somewhere far away. We don't do that with our mice traps.

 

[Cynthia12]

I am sharing both crazy chicken lady signs. Then sometime, I need to buy that first one!! lol

 

[pennyJo1960]

I do not believe I would try to be humane with a weasel either

 

[topdycke]

Welcome, to all the guests and new members of the thread! Make yourselves at home. I think I have missed several newcomers and I apologize for not greeting you properly. I am sure the other residents of "The Old Folks' Home" took care of it, they always do!

Work is trying to kill me. This month is crazy and I have worked lots of evenings and weekends. I think my co-workers have gone crazy, as well. Four times in the last three weeks I have been blamed for things that I didn't do. My direct supervisor thought it was my fault on the first one, but I had an email that proved I did what I was supposed to do. The second time, I was blamed for something my supervisor did (that was not as bad as it was alleged.) The other two times were just stupid cases of people running their mouths about things they had nothing to do with and didn't know what they were talking about. My supervisor finally said "I'm sick of everything being _'Wisher's'_ fault around here! People need to mind their own business." I have no idea what the problem is, but retirement is looking better and better. In addition, I was given a job offer last week that seems like the perfect retirement job for me.

It's mostly driving (vehicle and gas provided,) no heavy lifting, three days a week, flexible days, flexible hours, $300 a week (cash.) I crunched the numbers and it turns out that I need to stay at my current job another 21 months to get the maximum retirement check (for the rest of my life.) Retiring now would mean I would lose $300 a month on my retirement, and about $4000 in bonuses. SOOOOO, my oldest son took the job and will work it as long as he is in school, which should be another year and a half! Depending on what is happening then, another option is for me to start collecting DROP (in 21 months) money and let the next son take it until I am ready to leave for good.

It's nice to have options.

I have only scanned over posts and hope I didn't miss too much. I wish (there I go again) everyone health and healing, peace and happiness, and of course lots of chicken time!

I hope to make it 3 more years to my retirement goal... perhaps start a wine drinkers thread alongside the coffee drinkers?