Chicka... I am assuming this is the daughter that has been discussed in the past. I will try to be as PC as possible with full understanding that it's not my place and I am NOT trying to cause additional pain but to help YOU to heal and gain personal freedom from the strife. It makes no sense to drive yourself to an early grave trying to save someone else from their own self-destructive tendencies. You can only do what you can do. There comes a time to walk away.
I love my middle daughter (born 1985) and wish her nothing but the best. I miss my two grand kids that she has birthed. She is included in my will and I expect her to get her full 1/3rd share of whatever I leave behind. I have transferred $$ to her and her husbands bank account for presents and such equal to anything I have given my other 2 kids. That being said, I walked out of her house while visiting her and the kids over a Christmas ~5 years ago and have not seen/spoken to/contacted/or accepted contact from her since.
She is a cancer to my family and lives to cause strife and hurt in anything that she has dealings with. Her younger brother eliminated her from his life long before I did. Since I have disowned her, she has placed all blame on her older sister. Her older sister has also now disowned her. She has now successfully driven away her entire family. ETA This is NEVER her fault. It is always someone else to blame for her situation(s). She is self professed perfectly fine and not the issue/cause/problem.
She too is a drinker and both her and her husband are alcoholics. Neither believes/accepts this to be the case. She allows her kids to do anything they choose with no correction or control. She spends most evenings passed out on the sofa while her kids are left to fend for themselves.
I warned her for years that there would come a time when she would push me too far, would GO too far, or do something that would cause me to disown her. And so she did. I am on BP meds. Heart issues run in the male side of my family. I have neither the desire or need to put up with her antics and so I no longer "have" a daughter. I doubt that I will ever see her or talk with her again. This was/is my choice, forced by her ongoing and repetitive decisions/actions. I have been burned too many times by her.
It's sad, but necessary. I'm getting wound up just typing about it. I'm sorry your daughter is hurting and hospitalized, and hope that she recovers. I hope too that YOU can recover and go on with YOUR life without the constant burden. Please get yourself looked at regarding your stress levels and leg.
I love my middle daughter (born 1985) and wish her nothing but the best. I miss my two grand kids that she has birthed. She is included in my will and I expect her to get her full 1/3rd share of whatever I leave behind. I have transferred $$ to her and her husbands bank account for presents and such equal to anything I have given my other 2 kids. That being said, I walked out of her house while visiting her and the kids over a Christmas ~5 years ago and have not seen/spoken to/contacted/or accepted contact from her since.
She is a cancer to my family and lives to cause strife and hurt in anything that she has dealings with. Her younger brother eliminated her from his life long before I did. Since I have disowned her, she has placed all blame on her older sister. Her older sister has also now disowned her. She has now successfully driven away her entire family. ETA This is NEVER her fault. It is always someone else to blame for her situation(s). She is self professed perfectly fine and not the issue/cause/problem.
She too is a drinker and both her and her husband are alcoholics. Neither believes/accepts this to be the case. She allows her kids to do anything they choose with no correction or control. She spends most evenings passed out on the sofa while her kids are left to fend for themselves.
I warned her for years that there would come a time when she would push me too far, would GO too far, or do something that would cause me to disown her. And so she did. I am on BP meds. Heart issues run in the male side of my family. I have neither the desire or need to put up with her antics and so I no longer "have" a daughter. I doubt that I will ever see her or talk with her again. This was/is my choice, forced by her ongoing and repetitive decisions/actions. I have been burned too many times by her.
It's sad, but necessary. I'm getting wound up just typing about it. I'm sorry your daughter is hurting and hospitalized, and hope that she recovers. I hope too that YOU can recover and go on with YOUR life without the constant burden. Please get yourself looked at regarding your stress levels and leg.
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