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[drumstick diva]

It is a safe place to vent.

BUT you are not in a safe place with him around. He needs to be in a "locked," facility. Killing animals is just practice for killing humans. Trust me. It's great to be supportive but not till he has had a lot of therapy, meds and maybe ECT, and can comprehend you are trying to help him. Hope Ripley is safe as well.

Please take threats very seriously. This is not something that a few hugs can lighten up.

 

[superchemicalgirl]

Diva I do and he's been hospitalized when he decompensates.

Both kids get support from the state and are assigned workers .

 

[microchick]

@superchemicalgirl you are caught between the proverbial rock and a hard place.

I agree with @drumstickdiva. Be safe first and foremost. You are a medical professional and no stranger to the 'warning signs' that you will get when kiddo is about to go into a postal phase. I'm sure he is medicated and I'm even more sure that you are making certain that he is taking medication even if you have to crush it up in his pop.

So long story short, stay safe and don't be afraid to call 911 or crisis intervention if you have to. I know you will keep Ripley safe as well as you humans.

Bless you for doing all you can to help. It's a thankless job.

 

[ronott1]

Omg we just lost power.

It was nice knowing all of you .Maybe you can all say something nice at my sentencing hearing

The Boy might have to talk to you!

 

[ronott1]

Feel free to let it out .
Yes I know I should help out and I am .I don't have to like it though .there's reasons I didn't have kids and then to be gifted a teenager with severe behavior problems
Yeah I'd rather not but I am helping .thought this was a safe space to vent

It is a safe place to vent!

We see some of this here with parents that are in the foster program. On Christmas, there was a toddler at the dinner that was born addicted to 4 drugs

 

[microchick]

That is just plain sad, @ronott1. During my stint as an OB nurse we would have babies born with alcohol withdrawal. Too painful to see a 1 day old baby hooked up to an alcohol IV so it doesn't have seizures.

I was going to add, @superchemicalgirl. Vent away! And don't worry. We will start a Go Fund Me page for you if you should need bail!

 

[Latestarter]

SCG... the tongue biting may have been about the kids, and not wanting to get you more upset at them by throwing fuel on the fire. Always safe to vent here.

We all care about you and each other and at least for me, it sucks that I can lend no support other than font. But there are real feelings behind said font. Wishing you didn't have to deal with this crap that you never signed on for. Truly sorry for the situation that you're in.

 

[drumstick diva]

agree with that

 

[bruceha2000]

BUT you are not in a safe place with him around. He needs to be in a "locked," facility. Killing animals is just practice for killing humans.

Clearly I missed (or forgot something). Oh my.
I figured @superchemicalgirl was dealing 'only' with a teenager in relatively short term crisis. Reluctant to help or communicate but some stability would help him rise back up. This is a different kettle of fish all together. SCG

And @Latestarter, good sentiments shared by many here!

 

[superchemicalgirl]

It's okay.

I cut the internet this morning (since we lost power last night he bought it) and laid out clear expectations of behavior. I set him straight every time he strayed. We baked a loaf of bread for the nice neighbors we have (he carved an R into it for their last name before we baked it) and then delivered it. We tried to make cookies but we screwed it up. We played with my train set a bit and I pulled out the Hogwarts Express for him to play with. We then went to town to get more cookie stuff and we got 2 pails of salt/sand and treated the driveway because it is an icy disaster.
A friend is coming over and bringing her 3 year old grandson who loves trains to see them before we put them away for the year. I explained that it felt really good to do nice things for others and make their day and he felt amazing after doing the neighbor bread and he's looking forward to showing the boy how to use the trains when he gets here.
For what it's worth I turned the internet back on before we went to town and told him it was back up but he opted to go practice the trains before Levi gets here, instead.
I am exhausted.