The Old Folks Home

[Wisher1000]

Me, too, and my Dad lives in the same town, he is 91.

 

[chickensnewtome]

So they stuck a tube through mom's chest and into her lungs to drain it. She was doing better till this morning. Now she told me that she is terrified of suffocating to death before I get there, which is tomorrow, and she begged me to not leave her on Tuesday. I feel horrible. I wish I could stay longer but I have a family and school, and my chickens and Ducks to tend to. I just don't know what to do.


On another note: My hens should start laying soon, probably while I am gone, How long are eggs good in the coop? will they all be un edible?


Well I will be off of here for 5 days....hope ya'll don't miss me too much!

 

[Wisher1000]

Wow. Tough decisions to make. If the family can manage without you, I would suggest staying, especially if there are no other siblings to stay with her. If you can't stay, try not to be too hard on yourself, you can only do what you can do. Is there anyone to help you on either side?

 

[chickensnewtome]

I have two sisters that live in Florida but they are very self centered and are the kind that say "if it aint about me then forget it"

They make me mad. But any ways. I was talking to my aunt that is driving us down tomorrow, and she said if there is a will then there is a way. I am going to talk with my DH tonight when he gets home and try to figure something out. I will be happy if I can stay and help but if not i will be devestated.

 

[Wisher1000]

Sounds to me like DH needs to step up and take care of things at home while you are needed elsewhere....... just sayin'

 

[chickensnewtome]

Yes. I know. I think he will. I have my sisters down there to watch the kids, and DH can take care of the chickens and Ducks. I feel as tho if I don't stay down there, I will regret it the rest of my life.

 

[pickitfarm]

Yes. I know. I think he will. I have my sisters down there to watch the kids, and DH can take care of the chickens and Ducks. I feel as tho if I don't stay down there, I will regret it the rest of my life.

Take it from experience, do whatever has to be done to stay with her. It is just as important for you as it is for her. Have a safe trip. I wish you the best!

 

[Arielle]

My husband stepped up to the plate when the eggs neeeded hatching in a storm. He took them to work as they were ready to hatch. HE didn't have a clue-- only what I told him briefly as we were dealing with no power and 10 horses that needed water. Just saying, your DH can learn what needs doing if need be. Hope you get to spend all the time you need with your mom. Perhaps your sisters can help at your home while you are gone. Perhaps your husband can get all the school stuff organized this year. WOuld be a good way to have hi connect to the kids and see what you do.

If you bring your pass word with you, you can log on to BYC from any computer!!! In case you need some friends .

 

[superchemicalgirl]

And my $0.02 is that you need to set yourself some limits. If she's not better by X date, you'll do Y. And stick to it. If she's worse, you'll do Z.

I only say that because I'm in healthcare and I do see families that aren't pre-prepared and when many of them get into a similar situation it becomes "do anything and everything" until everyone is exhausted. If you set yourself some limits you do end up at least having a plan to stick to. I'm not saying this to be unfeeling or callous, just from experience.




Arielle, I'm headed your way in about 30 minutes. Gotta be at B&W in Boston at 12. Thinking it's going to take a bit longer considering it's so dark and stormy out. I love days like this, though.

 

[Arielle]

Enjoy the traffic!!!! I stay OUT of BOston--they are dangerous drivers!!