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[Bunnylady]

Quote: I don't mean to alarm anyone, but a restraining order is only worth the paper it is printed on. There have been many, many abusers that have escalated to an unprecedented level of violence when their victim dared to take out a restraining order against them. I don't know what this man may be capable of, but she needs to think about what will make her safe, not about whose feelings might get hurt.

 

[FridayYet]

She was going to get a restraining order. But she don't want him in jail. She don't want her grown children to go thru their dad going to jail. 

Guess I can understand that in a way, but also feel that it is a better lesson when people get jailed if they deserve it. Otherwise, you are teaching that it's ok to abuse someone and that there are no repercussions. In the future it could be looked at like "well she didn't press charges so it must not have been that bad". Unfortunately I've seen it before and the victim ends up looking like the bad guy.

Not criticizing her choices since I'm not in her shoes. Really hope your daughter is safe, uninjured, and gets the counseling she needs.

 

[perchie.girl]

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May I ask for your prayers for my oldest daughter? She left her extremely abusive husband and nearly od'ed last night. She is in the hospital.

Get in contact with womans shelters they have safe houses. The police may know some as well as churches.... The Dbag needs to go to jail. Her children will probably cheer when he does.

Restraining order is just a start. no matter how he takes it... But it all wont help untill she comes out of her fog and realizes she can live without him. Brainwashing takes time to overcome.

Hugs to you to keep strong

deb

 

[perchie.girl]

Guys I am going off line for some time. Computer needs serious cleanup and issues addressed.

Pass on the word .... usual turn around time is seven working days.

I am going to go bonkers without internet access

deb

 

[ronott1]

Guys I am going off line for some time. Computer needs serious cleanup and issues addressed.

Pass on the word .... usual turn around time is seven working days.

I am going to go bonkers without internet access

deb

Get a tablet!

I have an 8" Asus zentab--with a wireless keyboard. It is great in a pinch.

 

[Alaskan]

Chicka so sorry about your daughter...



As to bunny pee! Supposedly, since bunnies like to pee in a corner, you just set up a draining pan thing that catches the pee and drains it into a bucket.

 

[chickadoodles]

Thanks y'all. Her husband is so obsessed that I was afraid he would pull an OJ Simpson on her. And I told her that.
As for her kids, they have watched this their whole life. And my daughter always down played it all. But this time and a couple other times she has tried to commit suicide to get away from him. She told him she would rather die than stay with him.

 

[drumstick diva]

when people threaten suicide believe them!! Maybe she would be safer in a good psychiatric hospital but, what of her children???

 

[chickisoup]

So sorry Chicka. I will only say I understand because a long time ago I had been there (minus the drugs). Tell her she's NOT alone and make her believe it. If she found the courage to run, with a little help and a safe house (like Deb's wise suggestions) she'll make it. Huge prayers added of course.

 

[WVduckchick]

Hugs and prayers for chicka and family