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[chickadoodles]

Thanks Ron and Clue.

My little sister was way worse than my daughter and so was my brother. I left California and never saw them again.
My kids were young and were not around them much.

Now that it's my daughter it's tougher. But I am in another state. Luckily she does not have a car.

Clue we dont have resources like that here in these small towns.

I know it will take time to accept the new way of things.
Dh will retire in 2 years then we won't stay anywhere long.
And I will try to keep busy planning trips.

 

[ronott1]

Thanks Ron and Clue.

My little sister was way worse than my daughter and so was my brother. I left California and never saw them again.
My kids were young and were not around them much.

Now that it's my daughter it's tougher. But I am in another state. Luckily she does not have a car.

Clue we dont have resources like that here in these small towns.

I know it will take time to accept the new way of things.
Dh will retire in 2 years then we won't stay anywhere long.
And I will try to keep busy planning trips.

It is good to plan for the future!

I plan on retiring in two years also

 

[getaclue]

chicka, I was afraid of that, but hopeful there was some sort of resource for you, fairly close by. It really does help a lot. I have had some dealings with people in my life with addiction problems. My brother has had addiction problems most of his life. We don't speak anymore, and I'm not sorry about it. An ex sister in law with crack problems, is how I ended up adopting her daughter. I think alcoholism, and drug addiction has touched most families in some way, or another. Anytime you need to talk, feel free to pm me, or if you want my phone number, I'll be glad to give it to you, and lend an ear to listen, and an arm to steady you.

 

[microchick]

chicka, I'd like to suggest Al-anon, or Nar-anon. Whichever group is available to you. You'd be surprised about how many families go through what you are dealing with. Both are good programs. They're very knowledgeable, and insightful with helping cope with the things you're going through, like the guilt, regrets, etc.
Just remember:
1. You didn't cause it.
2. It's not your fault.
3 You have no control over it.
4. You can't change it.

Very good advice. Applies to my weekend problems. I was mostly stunned, then mad as Hades. Went out for a run to burn off the anger. Now I can hardly walk. Must have been more upset than mt legs and back could handle/

The dementia possibility is a good thought. I can forgive. I just choose to avoid the stress.

That is a good probability about the drug connection, @chickadoodles very good pick up.

 

[ronott1]

Very good advice. Applies to my weekend problems. I was mostly stunned, then mad as Hades. Went out for a run to burn off the anger. Now I can hardly walk. Must have been more upset than mt legs and back could handle/

The dementia possibility is a good thought. I can forgive. I just choose to avoid the stress.

That is a good probability about the drug connection, @chickadoodles very good pick up.

Definitely let Family take care of this. You do not have to at all and it is best to not have the stress.

There is enough of that dealing with your own relatives. No Toxic people!

 

[chickadoodles]

Micro I'm sorry your sore.

I dont think I can run anymore. Lol

 

[microchick]

Thanks! Muscle relaxers and tylenol good. Pain bad. DH has mowed paths for us in our pasture. There is a long upgrade near the pon that I have never been able to get all the way up. Yesterday I made it 90% before walking. I must have really been more PO'd than I realized.

Yeah, you can pick your friends, you can even pick your enemies but you are stuck with your family....which is why you move farrrrrrr away from them!

 

[sourland]

65 is elderly, eh, what comes next ancient ? I'm seriously elderly +.

 

[ronott1]

65 is elderly, eh, what comes next ancient ? I'm seriously elderly +.

I know! I was shocked to see 65 listed as Elderly! I have to wait until age 67 to get full Social Security Retirement!

 

[microchick]

I started mine at 62. I looked ahead at the amount that I would get and it wasn't all that much more. Somebody told us that you are better off starting at 62 because you stand the chance of never getting back what you pay in.

I HATE the term elderly. But man I love my senior citizen's discount at the grocery store.