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[Sally PB]

You might want to make that clear and in writing when you are checking into the hospital.

If it isn't in writing, then they can always say someone didn't know... and once you are out on the table, they might bring the bad guy in.

So make sure it is clearly stated and put into your file when you check in.

Thank you. I don't have any surgeries in the future (that I know of), but this particular doctor will never touch me again.

I didn't say anything about it at the time. (Sitting so close beside me our legs were touching, and then sliding his hand up my thigh? Clearly not "incidental" or "inadvertent.") But it happened more than once.

I had a broken wrist. He had my hand in his. I was afraid if I said something or tried to move away, he would "accidentally" jerk my hand.

On my last appointment, he was holding my hand and seeing how far I could bend my wrist. He went a little far, and I said, "Ouch." He gave me a dirty look and flexed it a little farther.

As I said, he will never touch me again. I don't care if he is well respected in his field.

 

[Mtn Margie]

That sounds horrible, Sally.
I am sorry that you had to deal with him.
It just makes a person even more nervous in a stressful situation.

 

[Sally PB]

Thanks.

The first time I was in the exam room (before he came in), I could hear the voices of people out in the hall, even though the door was closed. I realized after he "put the move on me" that if things went way wrong, I could scream and people would hear me. I felt safer then.

But every time he was ... inappropriate ... he was holding my broken wrist. I felt I was under his complete control because of that.

 

[Alaskan]

Thanks.

The first time I was in the exam room (before he came in), I could hear the voices of people out in the hall, even though the door was closed. I realized after he "put the move on me" that if things went way wrong, I could scream and people would hear me. I felt safer then.

But every time he was ... inappropriate ... he was holding my broken wrist. I felt I was under his complete control because of that.

That is truly horrific.

Is there anyway that you could report him?

 

[pennyJo1960]

Hey all no rain today.
Morning or afternoon Old folks.
Room mate is fine getting more to each other.
Cleaned the coops boards and tables.

 

[pertnear09]

Thank you. I don't have any surgeries in the future (that I know of), but this particular doctor will never touch me again.

I didn't say anything about it at the time. (Sitting so close beside me our legs were touching, and then sliding his hand up my thigh? Clearly not "incidental" or "inadvertent.") But it happened more than once.

I had a broken wrist. He had my hand in his. I was afraid if I said something or tried to move away, he would "accidentally" jerk my hand.

On my last appointment, he was holding my hand and seeing how far I could bend my wrist. He went a little far, and I said, "Ouch." He gave me a dirty look and flexed it a little farther.

As I said, he will never touch me again. I don't care if he is well respected in his field.

That's horrible. Unfortunately, some men are pigs. Wonder how long he'll be able to get away with such antics before he gets his comeuppance.

 

[Sally PB]

That is truly horrific.

Is there anyway that you could report him?

Probably not anymore, as it was 11 years ago.

Why did I not say something back then? I thought maybe I'd misconstrued what happened. Then I figured If I ignored it, he'd get the hint. After that ... what do I say? I was sure he'd say I misconstrued or imagined it. Or it would become, he said, she said.

And yes, there was the shame of it too. Hey doc, you think you're paying me a compliment? You are making me feel very uncomfortable. I bet I'm not the first woman you've treated this way.

This was a couple years before Larry Nassar was convicted of abusing a bunch of girl gymnasts, before the "Me Too" movement. I never even told my husband this happened until that all came to light.

 

[microchick]

@Sally PB what a horrible experience and I'm sorry that happened to you. One bad apple sort of thing but yeah, he could have been reported to the state medical board. It might be interesting even now to look at your states professional licensing site, find his name and see if he has any complaints against him. The majority of doctors are outstanding and morally responsible, decent people but still the occasional 'bad apple' shows up.

Howdy folks. Been an interesting week here. Pi is 3 months old now and broke her leg on Sunday. She tripped DH on the deck and they both went down with DH on top of her. She had tripped me the night before but I managed to catch the kitchen island and not go down. DH was fine but it was obvious that she had hurt herself. Monday morning we were at the vet. She broke the Tibio-Tarsal bone in her right hind ankle. The pieces were in good alignment and since she is a growing pup our vet said best treatment is to splint her up and let her heal naturally as they don't put hardware in bone growth plates in pups.

So she came home with a bright blue splint from hip to toe tip and a load of pain meds. But 5 days later you wouldn't know anything had happened to her. Keep her quiet our vet said. Don't let her get too active, our vet said....yeah, right. If I threw myself in front of her she would just peg leg her way over me.

She has to wear the splint for at least 3 weeks. Then have it redone due to growth. She goes back then to be re-evaluated. Vet said she should heal fine but her right leg may 'grow' a bit slower than the left since the growth plate in that bone was damaged but I'm betting real money that it ain't gonna slow this little fireball up.

And she has learned nothing from the ordeal. She tripped us both the day after she got her splint on.

 

[Sally PB]

I'm glad everyone is ok, or at least healing well. Puppies!

 

[Finchbreeder]

Sally you have the right to request any doctor you choose and reject any you choose. I insisted on going back to the doc who delivered my girl back in the early 90s to have my lip checked because the new doc kept saying it was fine and my gut said she was wrong. I got my way, it was cancerous, he removed it and all is good.
I had a creepy customer of the firm I worked for back in the late 70s his daughter went to school with my kid sis for goodness sake - many years later we were in the same Croquet club and no one understood why I never said anything but good morning or good afternoon and turned my back on "such a nice man".
Certain types of men have that attitude, it is becoming less common as women are no longer considered to have "done something to encourage it."
Everyone has the right to feel safe - my daughter was told right from the time she hit puberty - she could say NOT ON AND GET LOST - as I heard about her telling someone he would sing Soprano if he did not back off I am glad we gave her the freedom.