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rancher hicks

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So you understand where I'm coming from, this is what inspired my post.

Recently something was said, I took offense. I caught some flack and insult for my comment. Not the first time I'll admit.

So here are some things we may all fail to realize.

1. This is a public forum. Nothing you say should be considered private. Anything you say can and may be read by others. All postings to a thread should be considered a public conversation.
Meaning? That all forum members should be considered part of the "conversation". At least the way I see it.

2. Every member can be "followed" by other members. YOU might have a following. Some of you are very knowledgeable and while others may not comment or interject into the "conversation" they may be listening. You have an audience. Please keep this in mind when mentioning other groups of people.

Point? When someone who has not posted to the thread, but is listening in, does interject you should not get all "where did that come from?" In my case told "you're out of left field".

Are you who are being "followed" aware that those who follow you are notified by email when you speak?

3. Because this is a public forum there will be others who have different views/value system than you may have. Undoubtedly conflicts will arise. If we members of BYC can not respect others opposing values/views how can we expect the rest of the world to get along and not want to go to war? imho, we may not agree but I'm your friend and will be there to help if I can.

4. Are you aware that when you mention another member in a post, they are notified by email? If they've subscribed to the thread.

5. Only "Private Messages" and emails between members are truly private.

6. Is it wise to expect that when you form a thread that you'd like to be a "Private club/click" to expect new members to understand they're excluded from asking questions? Should members expect they have the right to form private clicks or clubs on a public site like BYC? Who gets to decide who can join your thread?

7. While I am not ancient of days, I do realize offenses will and have come. I also realize I can and have offended. I'm a big boy. I can and have owned up to it. I have apologized. However I've never been very good at holding a grudge, so if you offend me, It's not likely to cause me to ignore nor break our bond. At least not on my end. I'll admit to not understanding grudge holders. It's just not in my nature.

Yet I've also made the mistake to assume with some members a bond of friendship, to my own hurt.

I'll admit to loving BYC and it's members. I write the website on my business cards and invite anyone who remotely mentions something we talk about here to join.

I hope my comments don't offend anyone but help bring understanding of how this forum system works. At least from my point of view. Lord knows I've never been very good at expressing myself.

I wish you peace,

Rancher

On the other hand maybe I'm being naive and no one really cares.
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I just had a similar conversation with another member. Basically we all need to share the playground. Sometimes, though, it can be very hard to determine what people mean by their words alone, as we don't get the chance to hear their tone of voice or see their facial expression. I think your post was very thoughtful, and humorous as well :)
 
Very good post rancher hicks!

On your point #3, I usually reply to a new post seeking advice with “this is just what I do and others may have differing opinions, which I respect” or “In my experience” and still I have been told that I am wrong because a follow up poster has a different view.

I think we all need to remember that people posting for “advice” are seeking just that, not ‘specific direction’.

Sadly there are some people with good ideas out there that others could benefit from but do not share them for fear of being ridiculed by those who feel strongly that there is only one way; theirs.

The definition of Forum is ‘a meeting or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged’

Having said that, I also love BYC and have made some great on line friends and wow, learnt so so much!
 
And we were all new at this once.
I follow the your kid in a playground rule. If you wouldn't like somebody to say THAT to your kid in the playground, you shouldn't really post it :)

Oh and "no offence" often causes offence but you can't please everyone-unless you are pizza
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If you wouldn't like somebody to say THAT to your kid in the playground, you shouldn't really post it
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Agreed somewhat.
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A lot of times people think they're being "ganged up on" when in reality it is people trying to get through to them about how to take care of their animals. There are a lot of threads that deal with life and death and people get more concerned about how they're being addressed and they stop listening to the advice they receive.

Of course we should be respectful. For me BYC is about husbandry and a place for people to learn. Not just a place to make friends and be as nice as possible.
 
I flagged a post by mistake (a slip of the finger) today and then couldn't "unflag" it. I couldn't find any instructions on this. Hopefully this is the right forum.
 
No worries. We review every report. We don't always take action. Sometimes we see it's a mistake or there is not a violation. So the staff member who take care of your report will likely see it was a slip of the finger. :)
 

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