Things you wish you could say

[Nabiki]

I respect you (and other's) views on having children.

It makes me equally glad when people who don't want kids, don't have them.

Kids need their parents, a lot, and not just until they are old enough to make their own pb and j sandwiches and run their own Nintendo.

I've known people who have had kids because they're "supposed to". They and the kids suffer. It's truly unfair that when a man says he doesn't want kids people are okay with it. When a woman says she doesn't want kids, the response is "what's wrong with you?"

 

[Ruby Rogue]

When a woman says she doesn't want kids, the response is "what's wrong with you?"

I don't know any people (that I'm aware of) with that narrow of a mindset on this subject, but I sympathize with you.

 

[aart]

I don't know any people (that I'm aware of) with that narrow of a mindset on this subject, but I sympathize with you.

Oh, there are plenty...maybe not so much nowadays, but I was born in the late 50's.

 

[Ruby Rogue]

Some people have children chickens to have purpose...

 

[Brooks_]

Not sure where to say this so here is where I will.

That last page must've been good. Anyone have a screenshot?

 

[Tankueray]

I don't know what I would say if I could respond candidly, but I don't like when people see me with my small children and tell me to "enjoy them while theyre young because they grow quick".

"Absolutely, the older they get, the more tenderizer you have to use!"
"Oh yeah, I know all the words to that Harry Chapin song."
"No worries, I'm going to have a couple more so I can use them as tax write-offs until I retire."

I invited friends out for bbq and beer one time and one couple asked whether my dog was okay around children. (It was an adults only, Saturday night get together; the children were not invited, everyone else understood that.) I responded, "Oh she really loves children, she just can't eat a whole one." They decided not to bring the kids.

 

[Ursuline Chick]

"Absolutely, the older they get, the more tenderizer you have to use!"
"Oh yeah, I know all the words to that Harry Chapin song."
"No worries, I'm going to have a couple more so I can use them as tax write-offs until I retire."

I invited friends out for bbq and beer one time and one couple asked whether my dog was okay around children. (It was an adults only, Saturday night get together; the children were not invited, everyone else understood that.) I responded, "Oh she really loves children, she just can't eat a whole one." They decided not to bring the kids.

We were invited to a party with BBQ and beer (children were invited), DD was about 9. There was a small above ground pool in the backyard.
At one point I see DS jump into the pool fully clothed, BOTH parents were totally F ed up, and their tot was on the bottom of the pool. The Kid was fine (Thank God), but it was time for us to go home. Hayden and I both agreed we didn't want someone to ask DD to be responsible for any of the kids.
It was truly sickening, to watch everyone continue to drink without missing a beat.

 

[Tankueray]

I don't know any people (that I'm aware of) with that narrow of a mindset on this subject, but I sympathize with you.

You'd be surprised how many young women will say that to their peers. Being a Gen Xer and having heard that myself, I'm convinced it was a defense mechanism. Nearly all my friends were pregnant and married by 19; I had an awesome job and cool adventures, and they had crying babies and unhappy marriages.

 

[cheepteach]

I am a Baby Boomer like @aart---Hubby and I married at 28--I finished college and supported myself for years before I got married. I know of too many women stuck in a bad situation (often with kids) because they don't have a plan B. We had 2 kids because we wanted to, and knew we were a solid couple. I was 30 and 34 years old. But we both got pressure from our mothers to have more kids

 

[JacinLarkwell]

My health teacher in highschool always told the girls in my class that they should always get their general degree before their M.R.S. degree. Just in case something ever happens