This WAS gonna be a rant, but now I am just concerned

[debilorrah]

Yes she showed up, and of course, this guy is PERFECT. For this week. I am irritated I bothered to be concerned.

 

[Opa]

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I guess that if I think about it I may have rode up a trail or two that shouldn't have.

 

[Chicken Salad]

I met a guy on-line and I was cautious about it. I looked up the state sex offender list. I took my time. I was careful. We ended up getting married....

BUT

he lived 5 hours from me and I moved to where he lived. I sold my house...and suddenly he started lobbying for a new motorcycle....he had one that needed some work (and he was a mechanic!) but he wanted a new Harley suddenly.

Then he wanted a new car.

When I instead put the money into a house there for us to live in...he moved my stuff over there from his house where we had been living for a couple of months. His thing was to move a little at a time over on the weekends. Just about the time I noticed that not much of HIS stuff was moving...he started picking fights and finally walked away.

I received a letter some time later on. Somehow the wife before me had found my information (it turned out the house he said was his was rented in HER name and she went in there for something). She wrote and told me how he had abused her and had her raped and all this stuff. That he was a sex offender...(no wonder he didn't want to move...an address change might have raised some sort of flag as he was unregistered!) having molested his own daughter.

364 days after the marriage I was in court divorcing him. I think I was lucky to get away with my life and my money both. Last I checked he was back on Y**** personals trolling for 'love' again.

It's just hard to know.

 

[Stumpy]

I know it's difficult not to worry, but it sounds like she will not listen to reason or common sense, period.

 

[cjeanean]

She's so freakin lucky she made it back!!! I've been watching Dateline "To Catch A Predator" and I can't help remembering my stupid days...when I was 14 I used to have personal meetings with guys I met online (all older) in the dead of night. I thought I was smart by leaving their screen name and phone number on a note under my pillow. I'm so glad God protected me and that I was FAT back then, cause if I had been a cute little girl and God hadn't been looking after me I don't know if I'd still be here today. Online predators (not just pedophiles) are a VERY real threat, and she needs to get help. I understand not liking her, but she IS still a human, just like you said. She doesn't think the murder/rape stories you hear in the news would ever happen to her, and even though they might not there's still a real risk.

If she wasn't doing the stuff that she's doing, if she wasn't this type of person, do you think you and her would get long? Is this the only thing that keeps the two of you divided? She does need help....I wonder what would happen if her husband found out about all this...would he ditch her or help her? At least, in the VERY least, talk to her about leaving the phone number, screen name, time/location of meeting, and how long she's planning to be gone with someone she trusts, even if it's you. Have her schedule check in times, she's gotta call in every X number of hours to confirm that she's okay. Those little precautions can make all the difference, and she'll soon be regretting her decision to fool around online if she ends up in a ditch somewhere....

Good luck, and bless you for being concerned....she may be old, but even old people need someone to look after them sometimes....

 

[debilorrah]

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Listen here sister I am old too!

And the answer to your question about would I like her if it wasn't for this, the answer is no. She lies, she tells tall tales, she takes advantage of people, like playing a bleeding heart to get a rental and then trashing it after not paying rent, etc. So no, I wouldn't be close to her no matter.

Another grand example, she just came in and accused me of stealing her box of tissue

 

[Laskaland]

I feel for her hubby. Maybe she made the whole thing up...

 

[debilorrah]

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She brought back pictures.

 

[Mahonri]

Just shaking my head after reading this entire thread. unbelievable.

 

[debilorrah]

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While her behavior offends MY values, it is really her as a person that makes me not want to be around her. BUT I work with her so I am polite. And of course, the little bit of good in me will worry when she does it again.