To All BYCer's - Please Read, Enough is Enough

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There's been a topic or two that push my buttons and I'm sure that happens to everyone now and again but my rule is to always, always, re-read what I've just typed (hopefully to catch errors) to see if my tone is okay or to see if I've jumped into the middle of something that will really start a war. If I re-read it and there is no way my comment has anything positive to add I say "in a hundred years who's gonna care?" Sort of my attitude towards parenting too. If it's not that important that I chop someone off at the knees I back away and back out.
 
I agree 100% with Farmer Kitty...by all means, hit the report button if you feel something's inappropriate for ALL readers on BYC.

Yes, this place is family friendly and I believe will stay that way...however, we ALL have a responsibility to monitor posts at a very general level. If the mods disagree that it's an offensive post, okay...but at least draw it to their attention.

There's ALWAYS a way to say something. In a helpful, not offensive, way.
 
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thank you, i agree!!! how boorish and crude!
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I was sitting here thinking the same thing before I even logged on. Over the past few days it's gotten to where I don't even want to bother because there's someone on an innocent thread somewhere trying to stir up a nest.
Thanks for bringing this up!
 
I find problems with the reporting end of it too...which cannot be helped. But some people report the most ridiculous things and waste the mods' time. Case in point...a picture I posted over a year ago of my husband and I in the "put a face with the name thread"...showed my husband and I hugging from the shoulders up. We were in swimming suits which could not be seen and some MORON 14 months later reports my post and picture as "Too suggestive". I mean come on...why must that person's mind go straight to the gutter. Like I would post a picture of my drop dead gorgeous husband nude on here? Or anywhere? Maybe my arms offended them...who the crude knows but...

a lot of BS gets reported and wastes the time of the mods WHO btw are also members....time wasted that they could also be enjoying the forums.

I dunno what the answer is to these problems...I know that it has caused me to leave many a forum in the past. I am not ready to leave this one and will not leave...but I am only a few keystrokes away from telling someone point blank in a reply that their post is inappropriate and why. Why bother with an anonymous report? Maybe they will get a clue if enough people call them on it. I dunno.
 
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Yes, I haven't seen the exact posts you mentioned, But I do have to say that I have seen a few times where people are posting to people that have Legitimate Problems, and they don't seem to have anything nice to say, and end up saying something rude, that would have been better unsaid. I recently posted for advice on a personal problem I had, and although it did not pertain to chickens, I knew I would get some good advice from my wonderful BYC family (And I did, Mostly, Thanks Guys), and I actually had someone post "Get Over It" to me, and in the same post attack another person who posted, in a very rude manner, pretty much brushing off that they had real hopes and dreams and saying that were not important. They may not have been important to them, but to the person with those dreams, they were extremely important, and they should feel comfortable posting, and knowing they would get productive advice. In that thread there actually were quite a few people who PM'd me over the person saying "Get over it" they could not believe they said that, But I got a lot of good advice, so over all I am happy I posted.


Please just read what you are posting before you submit it, I do, and have actually decided not to post what I wrote, as it wasn't my place.
 
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I agree.... and... its why I deleted a picture I had of myself on the Bikini thread. It wasnt suggestive or anything else, but someone found it offensive, so I deleted it off (and I was fullly dressed). I dont want anyone upset by a picture....I dont want anyone upset period.

I dont want to start a debate, that wasnt my intent here - what I did want to bring to everyones attention is when its blatent and in-your-face ... - say something to stop the offensive behavior, simple as that. Had I been here other than an hour Friday morning and/or over the weekend, I would have said something, but I wasnt on here.

I'm not going to call out the threads in question, I dont think thats right either. They will come to light eventually - and there are more than just 2, there are many many many of them. The two I mentioned were just used as examples.

I, in the future, will hit report if its occuring when I am on, absolutely....

ETA: thats just wrong with calling names too... absolutely horrible!
 
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