to all you moms with shared children.

[sundance]

be glad he want to share their life, my DS' second wife has a very bad problem with the child from his first marriage,and does everything she can to keep him away from his dad,He is supposed to have him every other Christmas and every summer, but when its his time to buy the plane tickets,( they live on opposite sides of the country,) they never have the money for his plane fare.Butshe sure can spend it on her girls or anything else she wants.She leads him round by the nose, Guess its a good thing I also live on the opposite of the country

marrie

 

[smom1976]

I do encourage a relationship with their dad.. if only he would see that

He makes it hard. We have been in a custody battle for over 4 years ... IF only he would open his eyes and realize I want them to have a relationship. And it would be a much easier relationship without all the garbage. It is hard on me but it really is the best for the kids to have their dad. I agree with that. He seems to hunt for and focus on any negative aspects of my mothering. But I do the best I can do and that is all I can do. There is something about the thought of loosing your children for the last 4 years continuously that makes one cherish every moment.

I will be having one weekend of visitation with them over this course.. We are going to take the kids to disney. From our last trip we had bought 3 day hopper passes and used only 2 days of them. We are going to go and use up that third day

The kids are in Jacksonville now so it really shaves off quite a bit of driving time for them. Not be but that is ok! To make it easy on my x I told him that I wanted to have one weekend and he could pick which one he wanted me to have.

 

[ams3651]

ive always tried to get along with my oldest father, he nailed himself in the foot with my son, anyway...

My boyfriend has a daughter from his last marriage that I have always got along well with. Him and the x used to get along horribly, shes spiteful and spoiled. She was constantly taking him back to domestic relations for more $ and telling the kid stuff, etc, etc. I finialy made him see its so much less stressful to just keep the peace. Im so glad she finialy settled down.

Its tough having them gone for so long but nothing is better for them than you encouraging a good relationship between them and their father.

 

[Ericasl]

I want to send you a big hug. My ex does not see my boys, but it would be so hard if he did. I hope your 40 days go by really fast. You are a great Mom.

 

[rooster0209]

I never had a father who was interested in a relationship with me or my sister, biological or step.

It's nice to see parents put the child first above their differences. You are doing what is right. I bet your ex feels the same when the kids are with you. Enjoy your free time, you deserve it. Being a single mother is hard work. (I know, I saw my mom do it and she even had a husband)

 

[Oblio13]

Kudos to you for not using the kids as weapons.

 

[montcapu]

funny thing I was thinking along the same lines of that today... I have a 5 (6 year old tommorrow - a 4th of july baby) year old and his mother doesn't care that much about him, my husband and her share joint custody (one week on one week off) and every week that she is suppose to have him, her parents pick him up and they keep him, the only time we hear from her is on thursday nights to see where to pick him up the next day (because she wants us to believe she has him the whole time - but we know better) before he started school we had no contact with her for 9 months, I have 3 years of calenders of who picked him up and what ever contact we had with her (hopefully someday we will go back to court ***crosses fingers***) I hate to turn him over to his grandparents every other week, it drives me up the wall because she needs to be held accountable for him (for gods sake we pay her child support for her NOT to have her child) but my husband keeps hoping she will come around and does not do anything about it because he does not want his son not to have his mother in his life (I guess when she is ready to be a mother - but that is another story all together)...
so be blessed that your husband is responsible enough to want to be apart of your childrens lifes because not all men (or women) want that when they have someone else who will stand up and take responsiblity for the kids (believe me I know I have 2 from previous relationship that my girls have not seen in 4 years - one is 6 and the other is almost 4 (she has never seen her dad but she doesn;t know since my husband has been around since she was 3 months old))
angela