I have the same conundrum. Rather than start a new thread since it is the same subject I thought I would tack on here...I'm new...hope that isn't rude. I was sold a turkey to replace the Narragansett tom we lost and for the life of me I don't know if it is a hen or Tom. It is 5-6 months old, Taller and more slender than my 5 month old hens with darker, more distinguished coloring, a very slightly longer snood, I haven't seen it strut, but that doesn't seem to be much of a gender indicator. Its legs are longer and slightly thicker, when exited, the neck gets red and blue, unlike my hens, I was able to evoke a lame little gobble out of it by gobbling myself, BUT it has very distinctive feathers going up the back of its head ... I thought that was a sure way of distinguishing a hen, and it is very gentle, don't understand the beard thing, but dh found something like a little Brillo pad sorta thing on its chest under the feathers. Any comments?