Too mature for my age?/tired of being friendless

[DuckLady]

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Oh Debi, how sweet, but you know I am tad older than that!

One of my best friends is 70. Age just doesn't matter.

Area activities with your baby sounds like a great idea!

 

[karen71]

I agree age doesn't matter - just find people you like that have the same interest as you do and you will end up with friends

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

Just going to throw this out there...

I'm 23 and I don't like to go out to clubs. I feel awkward and know I don't belong, but I'm invited and I don't want to seem rude. I've realized I much prefer to sit at home with a few friends and have a Skip-Bo night, movie night, etc. Do I enjoy my alcohol? Well a bit...but I wait until the weekend to let my frustrations vent. When I have land, I won't be drinking at all...My time will be spent gardening, feeding, grooming, etc. I can't wait!

I don't have children so I'm out of that loop. I understand those with children always have prior commitments (welfare of the children come first!) and I don't plan on having them for at least another 3 years. Maybe your younger friends are feeling a rift because they don't know when you are available or you aren't stating enough that you don't like to go out and party?

 

[debilorrah]

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Oh Debi, how sweet, but you know I am tad older than that!

One of my best friends is 70. Age just doesn't matter.

Area activities with your baby sounds like a great idea!

I thought you were 30

 

[dntd]

I was like that, Im 29 with a 13 year old! Find a young parents group, y usually has play groups so do churchs and health units. I personaly never cared for parting, never missed it either. Drinking and drugs is a big thing in our city, never did drugs and rarely drink. My dh goes to bars with his friends and just gets pop.

 

[pbjmaker]

I was there also at one point. Had my first child weeks from my 21st Bday, lived in a small town that was new to us. I was pretty shy back then and found it hard to make friends.

Now I have kids that are almost 20, 18 and 16. I spent many years involved in whatever they were involved in and made friends that way. Now my friends are people that I just feel a connection with. One of the people I have the most fun with is only 23 - but she is like me in that we are both quirky and have a lot of the same thoughts. Moving around a lot when I was younger and had small children made me realize that it was often me who had to make the first move towards friendship and I NEVER worry about how old my friends are. Age is just a number, we all have had different lives that have led us to different places and maturities. Just find ways to reach out in your own community and take that first step in being a friend. There are many people who are like you and feel alone and are afraid to reach out.

BTW - MOPS was a good place for me at one point to feel connected.

 

[Mandalina]

I feel you on this one, I just turned 27 but look younger and most women my age are just settling down and maybe having their first baby...and I am on #4.I tried going to the mommy and me stuff when they boys were little and no one would talk to me bc I look like a kid and I have piercings and tattoos up the yang.For a long time I just went without close friends besides my bff's from HS, but since they didnt/dont have kids it has been a struggle to maintain the relationship since they still all party a lot.
Hang in there though,you will find you spot with other mom's eventually.I found a few awesome mom friends I wouldn't trade for anything.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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You play Skip-Bo?!?!?! WEIRDO......I'll have the cards dealt by the time you get here

I LOVE Skip-Bo, but can't get anyone else in the house to play with me

 

[speckledhen]

Maturity and levelheadedness will put you outside the norm in many age groups, sweetie.

 

[Boyd]

too bad ya'll live too far out, I'd be inviting ya'll out for a bite or two. My friends range in age from 19 to 65ish. Pretty big range for a guy in his 30's

Just because you don't relate with folks your own age don't mean much. Just means your on a different level than they are. No harm in that.