Tough love is really tough, it hurts (him too now)

[gritsar]

Yes tough love hurts, but sometimes it's necessary.

 

[Baymule]

It is the law of Nature. Baby birds must spread their tiny wings and fly away.

 

[cparian]

My SO is starting to come to this same point with his son right now. His son doesn't appreciate anything we do for him. The only time he talks to us or is nice is when he wants something then after he get it, back to the same disrespectful attitude. It's very hard for my SO, but everyone he talks to tells him the same thing. Time to cut him loose to make his own way. It's the only way he will learn to appreciate you is when he doesn't have you. Good luck & hang in there.

 

[welsummerchicks]

I think each parent has to make their own decision. What works for one family might be the wrong choice for another.

I think a parent needs to try to keep the person at home, but if it really is tearing the family apart it is time to try something else.

An exception where the parent might try to continue with the child at home past a point where another parent would, is in cases where the child is impaired and chances are high that living independently would threaten their physical safety.

Sometimes especially with drug use, though, there just is no choice.

 

[arabianequine]

Hang in there tough time we face as parents, right now for me too....my 18 year old son just moved into his own place yesterday and I am very worried. He has caused a lot of tor-morel/damage to the structure in our house and him and his stepdad are not getting along. My son made the decision to move out on the first, so it happened. Awfully quiet and peaceful....but I will worrry forever now

to you and your son

 

[Laurajean]

 

[Patchesnposies]

Praying for you, Kate. Sometimes I think the stress (and resultant heartache) just grows as they do.......I have three grown children and all of them went through this painful transitional time in their early twenties. A few life lessons without mom and dad there to catch them and bail them out helped their attitudes a WHOLE LOT!

Your Southern New Mexico Neighbor,

Deb

 

[lotzahenz]

I am so glad to know I am not alone, there are lots of parents out in the world going through the same thing, my own 18 y/o son has caused us much grief in the past year or so. This is such a warm and understanding place to vent. And remember, as my ole granny would say "This too shall pass......." I do wish it would go a little faster. you have our support, good luck. Tammy

 

[redhen]

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[WriterofWords]

Thank you so much everyone, this pretty much the only place I know I can get some support right now. He's 19, he's in the Reserves, he needs a full time job too right now until he starts school. It was not an easy decision, he's not out on the street in a box, he's at a friend's (his) apartment with people he knows. We can't even be in the same building right now, if I say anything he doesn't want to hear, or doesn't agree with him I am starting a fight, so he starts getting mean and rude and I walk away because I'm not going there. Hopefully it smooths out withing a few months.