ugg men and the lack there of lol
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I remember the thread about the ex and your sons asthma. I thought GO GIRL!!!! You made the right choice there!
You are right though, life is a little more fun when you have someone to share things with. I say relax and be yourself, chickens and all! Love me, love my chickens! He is out there hon, stop looking and let him find you!
You are right though, life is a little more fun when you have someone to share things with. I say relax and be yourself, chickens and all! Love me, love my chickens! He is out there hon, stop looking and let him find you!
The worse the economy gets the more men will find self reliant, able to feed themselves and their families, far more attractive!!
Happy, let's chat lol! From the sound of it you are pretty close to the age I was when I found myself a single mom. I'm not a widow, but in a way I feel like I am because with the death of my second marriage before I was 35, I felt like all my trust in men in general died.
I'm now 45, my son is 17, I've been single since he was under 2, and for the most part I've been happy. Lately I've thought about dating again, been working on getting the "bait" in shape, ya know? I've seen several suggestions that tell you not to mention your chickens up front, and not to step on any feelings but I know I will, don't wait to mention them. I'm not saying introduce in such a manner where you say "Hi my name is ___ and I have chickens", but don't avoid the subject either because when you are meeting someone you want to be honest. The biggest mistake we all make, and yes we all do it, all, is to hide little things, or make them seem not important to us when in fact it is something very important to us. We may not all do it consciously, but we do it.
When you are looking for someone, you want them to see only the good, or more importantly, you want them to see what they are looking for, not what you might be or be lacking in what they are looking for. In my case, I have a lot of animals, and when I meet a man and it looks interesting, I'll flat out ask what kinds of animals they like, just in conversation. That way if they say they hate cats, I can just enjoy the rest of the evening for what it is and it goes no further because I have cats, I love them, and I'm not giving up a furry friend because a man doesn't like them. I live in a rural area and a lot of times my land comes up in conversation and I'll make a comment about how lucky I am to have room for all of my animals. Sometimes they are receptive and sometimes they are not.
My main point is to not misrepresent yourself with your chickens. You may come to the point of really liking someone, and it falls apart because you find out too late they don't like your animals. Been there done that. Don't set yourself up like that, about anything. Present yourself for the loving, caring, wonderful person and mom you are, animal lover, chicken lover included. Let the chips fall where they may, because if you don't you are setting yourself and child up for pain you just don't need.
I'm now 45, my son is 17, I've been single since he was under 2, and for the most part I've been happy. Lately I've thought about dating again, been working on getting the "bait" in shape, ya know? I've seen several suggestions that tell you not to mention your chickens up front, and not to step on any feelings but I know I will, don't wait to mention them. I'm not saying introduce in such a manner where you say "Hi my name is ___ and I have chickens", but don't avoid the subject either because when you are meeting someone you want to be honest. The biggest mistake we all make, and yes we all do it, all, is to hide little things, or make them seem not important to us when in fact it is something very important to us. We may not all do it consciously, but we do it.
When you are looking for someone, you want them to see only the good, or more importantly, you want them to see what they are looking for, not what you might be or be lacking in what they are looking for. In my case, I have a lot of animals, and when I meet a man and it looks interesting, I'll flat out ask what kinds of animals they like, just in conversation. That way if they say they hate cats, I can just enjoy the rest of the evening for what it is and it goes no further because I have cats, I love them, and I'm not giving up a furry friend because a man doesn't like them. I live in a rural area and a lot of times my land comes up in conversation and I'll make a comment about how lucky I am to have room for all of my animals. Sometimes they are receptive and sometimes they are not.
My main point is to not misrepresent yourself with your chickens. You may come to the point of really liking someone, and it falls apart because you find out too late they don't like your animals. Been there done that. Don't set yourself up like that, about anything. Present yourself for the loving, caring, wonderful person and mom you are, animal lover, chicken lover included. Let the chips fall where they may, because if you don't you are setting yourself and child up for pain you just don't need.
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Ok, this is coming from a single mom who now has a fabulous BF. I remember the days of dating where you had to worry about when to drop the "I have a kid" bomb....Now we have to worry about the "I have chickens" bomb too? Yikes! This dating thing gets harder and harder!
Ok, this is coming from a single mom who now has a fabulous BF. I remember the days of dating where you had to worry about when to drop the "I have a kid" bomb....Now we have to worry about the "I have chickens" bomb too? Yikes! This dating thing gets harder and harder!
Seems to me that after 30 saying I have no kids seems to be more of a bomb shell than if I had them?
I'd go out with ya but that's a bit of a drive.
I'd go out with ya but that's a bit of a drive.
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i just saw your pic on your page...are you kidding me??! you are BEAUTIFUL! UGH! you will find the right guy someday...you will! and as for the other one at dinner...its his loss! you dont want a guy like that anyway!...you seem to be a beautiful person inside AND outside....
I had the same problem finding someone that accepted my animals and rural life. When I stopped looking it just happened. Just keep doing the things you love and you'll meet someone along the way that has similar interests. My BF was skeptical on the chickens, but was an animal lover, so the chickens have grown on him. Good luck!
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