ugg men and the lack there of lol

[CityGirlintheCountry]

I had a really long post written and then deleted it because it sounded bitter. Suffice it to say that I understand your situation. It is very difficult being a middle-aged single woman, unless you look like Barbie. Clearly I don't. I gave up dating a couple of years ago and just muddle through on my own. While it would be nice to have a man in my world, the reality is that there is not likely to ever be one. Clearly I am not what the local men want.
The only help I can tell you is to just go on living and do the stuff you and your son want to do. Maybe Prince Charming is out there and maybe not. No matter. Life is still good. Loneliness can be channeled into creative projects. Or more chickens.

Sorry you are having to deal with it all. It sucks.

 

[Duncan]

Dear Happy,

I have analyzed your situation and come to the conclusion that "yankee" men are either blind ( you are a beautiful lady) or stupid (must be that northern education).

Here in the south you would be placed upon the pedestal you so rightly deserve to be on. Your DS would be taken under the wing of a grandfatherly type figure and taught to hunt, fish and repair automobiles.

Alas, I have been married to the same wonderful woman for over 22 years or I would personally escort you and DS to the south and introduce you to men of superior breeding and taste.

Best of luck,

A Southern Man.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Duncan,

Them southern men sound wonderful! How much for you to ship one up here to me?

 

[crtrlovr]

 

[AHappychick]

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Not for nothing but I DID and still do feel that way after my Husband died we had known each other since were were 5 years old. Had I not been 7 months pregnant I would have just pulled out my pistol and joined him right then and there. The fear of eternity with out him as punishment for killing my unborn son was the only thing keeping me from doing so, it was not an easy decision. I have purposly not made BYC my memorial for AJ because it seemed not the place, but if you were to go to other places like Cafe Mom and my myspace you would see just how much he means to me.

Its been almost 4 years i dont expect to have that same love again but it is pretty easy to say you would never be with some one else until you are in that situation, and I hope you NEVER are.

 

[AHappychick]

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yes I would be happy to pay for shipping no pedastal needed I prefer level footing or the moving floor of a fishing boat.

I dont know I will figure it all out I suppose. I cant troll and farm auctions (arent any) and I rarely leave my house or property anyway being a stay at home and with all the gardening and chooks.

 

[Up-the-Creek]

I have been married twice. My second husband is a friend that I grew up with. I love him more than anything in this world, but if something happened to him today, I would not ever marry again, or date. I agree entirely with Speckledhen,...never again. Solitude can be a wonderful place.

 

[WiseChicks]

Ahappychick -

This resonates very strongly with me, and I want to be able to write the answer that is rattling around in my head, so it will wait until tomorrow.

Yeah, the funny thing is, everyone would THINK a guy would flip for a gal that hunts or fishes or farms or any one of a number of things, but the truth is, they will pal around with you and then go date your polar opposite, and then CALL YOU to complain because she DOESN'T hunt, fish, farm, fix things, etc.

You and I each have a great guy in our lives, even if they don't currently drive, or break the 5-foot-tall mark. Most of the time, it is enough, more than enough, but then there are the other times, and it just plain sucks. Looking or not, dating or not. It is a natural feeling.

Katie

 

[horsejody]

I have been married for 26 years. If something happened to him, I won't look for another. We married young and have adapted to eachother. I would have no desire to train another or be trained by one. However, the OP is much younger than I am so I can see her desire. I hope we all have or can find the one we are looking for!

 

[Nifty-Chicken]

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