Update on stepchild...Need advice on wedding now Please !

[s6bee]

Ok, I know I'm not going to be the popular vote.
I grew up with very little contact with my Dad ( l lived in NY he, California ) He forgot birthdays, and most of the time didn't even remember how old I was.
Thing is, even though it wasn't a good relationship, and to this day still isn't, it was still something. That said. If I were in your shoes, I would invite him but make it my last attempt to keep the relationship going. He doesn't have to walk you down the aisle. I had my step-father walk me down for mine. I guess, if he doesn't go or reply, it's the final straw. Not inviting him, you cut the tie, not showing up, he does. I guess it's up to you on who you want to cut the relationship for good?
However, if his presence there will be uneasy on you and others around then leave him out.

 

[Katy]

I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who thinks you should at least invite him!

My oldest son and now DIL eloped because she was stressed out about whether to invite her father who hadn't spoken to her for almost 3 years. After he heard thru the grapevine that they had had a little girl last May he contacted her and he's now trying to work his way back into her life, but she's very guarded with him and I don't blame her for that.

Like others have said it should be your day...whatever you decide to do. I hope you have a wonderful day!

 

[chickbea]

Only invite people to your wedding who love you and want to see you and your partner happily off on a new life together.

 

[CarriBrown]

One thing I made sure I did when DH and I got married- I ALWAYS did what was in my heart, no matter what everyone else said. That is your day and you do what you feel is right. If you want him there, invite him, but be prepared if he doesn't show up. If you don't want him there, don't invite him.
If you haven't noticed yet, you will eventually notice that everyone will try and tell you how to have your wedding. Do what you want, do what's in your heart... that way, you will have no regrets.
Congrats on the wedding!